Hi there...

[sportmad]

Well, am not sure where to start but...OK..I used to be a healty size 10-12 on hight 177cm, which i was very happy.I met my present partner 6yrs ago, and 3yrs ago i had my first baby and i my weight was the same. But year and a half ago i had another baby an my weight just went creazy.My habit of eating healty had changed, now i am size almost 18(which i am realy ashamed of), and simple i don't know how to start diet.The worst thing i tend to eat when i am opset, and that is very often(not proud of it at all).I am the bread winner in the house and i am completly torn apart-i have never been like this in my life-and on top of all that -my "lovely" partner is non-stop talking about that -he is calling me different names(fat cow, tactor...) and makes me even more miserable.He is just making things worse...Such a Christmas...So i would like some help-what is the best way to start diet, sample or some direction..How to resist food when i am opset...HOW TO LOOSE THIS EXTRA BAGGAGE...Thanks for reading....

What upsets you sportmad?

Does your partner call you names because he's an arse, or does he do it because he thinks it will spur you into dieting? If he's doing it because he thinks it will help you diet then he has to stop, because it will only add to the unhappiness and thus add to the comfort eating.

The first thing, I think, is to work out why you comfort eat and address that. If you are regularly unhappy or upset by something or someone in particular, try to work out how you can deal with that thing or handle (avoid?) that person. If you're regularly sad or unhappy generally, perhaps you are depressed and need to deal with that before you deal with losing weight. You do sound very negative, and I wonder whether depression is the real issue here.

From personal experience, I used to eat when I was upset, and then get upset when I ate...catch-22! I still do it, even though I am now a Weight Watcher Leader .

What do you think you need to do to lose weight? Are you able to join a club? Do you buy any slimming magazines? The first step might be to buy a calorie counter book, and stick to low-fat (less than 5%) foods, and a total of around 1600 calories a day, dropping them as you lose weight, with a minimum of around 1250 calories a day when you have less than a stone to lose.

I really wish you all the best. You sound a lot like me. My dh was not supportive when I was overweight either. It is very hurtful isn't it. Keep posting. If you join WW, I am happy to help you with the plan, if you need it.