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feeling a freak after putting on so much weight during pg/bfing - please tell me I'm not the only one

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ReastieHorrorShow · 18/10/2011 18:41

So I'm currently nearly 5 stone above my pre pg weight Shock . DD is 7 mo. I've just been reading threads about people saying how terrible it is they are still a whole 6lbs above their pre pg weight and all i can think is Envy . I'm the only person I know to have put on so much. I did have a difficult pg but since having dd I've put on a further stone Shock

I'm doing a weight loss class thing but haven't yet lost anything. I don't eat alot of bad stuff but I prob eat too much in quantity. I really struggle with hunger. I try and get out with dd in the buggy a few times a week for a walk but I find it hard to do much more than that with her.

Please tell me I'm not a freak and other people have put on this much weight and sruggle to lose it when bfing? (still bfing btw). I'm partly looking forward to finishing bfing in a way in the hope that I will finally be able to get stuck in to weight loss.

Feeling generally Confused about everything

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BuntyCollocks · 18/10/2011 20:55

I'm still bfing, and a stone above my pre-preg weight, 2 stone above my wedding weight and 3 stone above my lightest. I know how you feel, it is tough. My ds is 8 months now, and I've only just started properly doing something about it. I've started at sw last week and lost 2lbs, hoping I'll lose again when I go tomo. I'm hoping to lose the 2 stones to get down to my wedding weight as I felt happy there. Good luck.

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ReastieHorrorShow · 18/10/2011 21:14

bunty If I want to get to my ideal weight I've got 6/7 stone to lose Shock Shock [depressed]

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BuntyCollocks · 19/10/2011 16:58

If I want to get to an ideal bmi I have 5 to lose ;) I just choose to ignore stupid bmi label twattery.

TantePiste · 20/10/2011 04:28

Yes i gained 3 stone with ds1, and expected it to come off with bf, healthy eating, etc. Did not budge. Feels as if i have a different body altogether and it is demoralizing. 3 may not sound much, but i am a small, short person and the effect is drastic. I have been implementing a low carb lifestyle for one month and it os the first time in 4.5 years i have seen any results. I think it is the way forward. I had never had to struggle with weight and it felt overwhelming, but a taste of success improves the morale.

MrsBloodyTroll · 20/10/2011 04:46

Me too, OP.

I put on 3 stone during pregnancy with DC2 (only 1 stone with DC1), lost 1 stone at birth and in past 2 months since he was born have chucked on 8lbs and counting.

I'm 3 stone above my ideal weight, which I did reach for a brief moment in early 2010. Did WeightWatchers after DC1, lost weight easily and so this time I've been complacent.

Am quite Angry at myself, but I can't stop eating! Night feeds are the worst, I pump myself full of sugary drinks and chocolate biscuits to stay awake. I'm absolutely knackered.

I was planning to wait until after Christmas/ after bf to start a diet, but so few of my clothes fit me now, and I look so awful, I think I might have to start sooner. I still look 6 months pregnant. Sad

Exercise isn't really an option as I've had a prolapse and it's uncomfortable if I'm on my feet too long. I tried going out walking with the buggy a few weeks back and felt awful afterwards. GP (doctor) says I need to take it easy at first, swim or something, but no way I'm putting on a swimming cossie looking like this! I was going t the m regularly until about 35 weeks, so this all just feels spectacularly unfair. Even if I know I'm the one who over-ate.

If it's any consolation, I did WeightWatchers after finishing bf with DC1. I was only doing one feed a day by the end. But I lost something like 5lbs in the first week on WW/after bf. Am sure it would be more if going from full-time bf to diet. It was around 9 months with DC1, when I started cutting back bf'ing, that I felt like taking control again. Even so, the last 10lbs or so stuck and wouldn't budge, hence WeightWatchers.

I just know that I'm going to have to diet for the rest of my life now. My old body has gone forever.

MrsBloodyTroll · 20/10/2011 04:47

"t the m" should read "to the gym" (iPad)

MrsBloodyTroll · 20/10/2011 04:49

TantePiste am also short/petite stature so the same here, even a few pounds over my ideal weight and it's very evident. Goes straight onto my stomach and bum. My boobs aren't that big, even with bf, so it's very evident.

BuntyCollocks · 20/10/2011 09:27

I do think for some of us, breastfeeding really hinders weightloss. I did sw years ago and lost 3 stone in 3 months. This time it is so much harder, 3lb in 2 weeks. It's like my body doesn't want to let go of anything, and I am following it to the letter.

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ReastieHorrorShow · 20/10/2011 16:11

It's so hard - you feel like you're fighting an uphill battle (well, I do). Much stronger and harder to ignore hunger than usual and I try so hard and I never lose any weight. This week, I'm giving it my all with being careful with what I eat and going to fast walks etc alot to see if I am actually capable of losing weight or not.

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MrsBloodyTroll · 21/10/2011 12:27

Good luck ladies! I'm holding out a bit longer before I start the diet. Yesterday, fed up of having nothing to wear and feeling like crap, I treated myself to some larger tummy-skimming tops. Putting on one of them this morning, even though it's just a long-sleeved t-shirt, and not having it ride up, just feels good.

Am "normally" a size 10-12 and this top is a 16 Shock. But then, who's looking at the label? Not like the postman cares (in fact he keeps saying how good I look so soon after having a baby - he is married, talks about his wife a lot, just a very nice man. Will try to send him round to your houses to boost your confidence too!).

It is amazing how much easier it is to eat a bit healthier when you're less tired. Yesterday after about 2-3 hours' sleep I ate chocolate, drank coffee and coke and even stopped off for a Burger King Blush. Whereas today after a relatively luxurious 4-5 hours I have been on the orange juice and just cooked a proper meal for DD and I for lunch.

Diet to start soon...

foreverondiet · 23/10/2011 22:14

I put on 3 stone when pregnant with DS2.

Started diet when he was 6 months old. Lost it within 4 months and a year later I'm a stone lighter than I was to start with (so I lost 4 stone).

I didn't start until I stopped breastfeeding. For me breastfeeding and dieting are not compatible.

bishboschone · 29/10/2011 12:36

I put on 5 stone ( ds 11 weeks) , I only made it to 33 weeks so god only knows how much iwoud have been had he been term..eek !!.... I have lost about 3 but have at least 2 extra to lose. I am short too and have gone from size 8-10 to 14 .. I absolutely hate being fat , I have had to buy new clothes and nothing looks nice. I tried to join ww when ds was 3 weeks old ( he was in scbu in hospital and I wanted a focus) they wouldn't let me which is annoying as I think I had the focus then to do it and I would have been thin by now. Anyways I walk to school twice a day which is a long trek especially pushing a buggy. My husband doesn't like me dieting but he is away this week and I have decided I am going to do no carb as I know it works. I used to run but I just feel too heavy now so I feel if I can just get a stone off I can start upping the running and I wil get there, hopefully by Christmas ! Good luck .. I know exactly how you feel as I know how different I look and feel embarrassed by my weight..my friends have been lovely and I am lucky I am hourglass but with a tummy it is not a good look..( I miss my flat tummy) to compound all of this I had an emcs so maybe it will never be the same again :(

reastie · 02/11/2011 18:10

Just spotted these Blush

forever I'm so glad you lost it all and more but only when you stopped bfing - gives me hope

bish lucky you with a dh who doesn't like you dieting - mine gives me an evil eye every time I eat anything Sad . Well done on the weight loss btw Envy . I had an emcs too - does that mean I will never get my tummy back? not that it was ever flat anyway

Well, I went to an 'easy' aerobics class today - everyone was over double my age and I sweated the most by far Blush . I guess it's a start...

bishboschone · 02/11/2011 21:01

Only what I have heard about tummys. :(.... I have lost 7 pounds since Sunday doing no carb so there is hope. Dh wants me to be happy and says I'm not fat but 11 stone at 5 ft 1 is fat. :( ... Being fat makes me unhappy so we are at odds. I know I am lucky though, my friends husband has ordered her to get to the gym ( nice) .

reastie · 02/11/2011 21:13

Shock to being ordered to the gym. My DH doesn't really say anything as he knows how upset I am about how I look but I know he doesn't like the way I look as he never wants maritals anymore

It's so depressing feeling so bad about how you look isn't it? IMO you don't sound 'fat' at all (by my obese standards Blush )

bishboschone · 02/11/2011 21:18

It's all relative though.. I am unhappy .. Good luck, it's a hard slog though :(

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