I'm so depressed (warning self pity post)

[Candid]

I just can't stop eating. I don't know what the hell is wrong with me. I hate being overweight.
I go on threads, I've even started some but just can't seem to stick to anything.

Tomorrow I'm going out with some friends to a posh restaurant and I've got nothing to wear, or I look shit in what I have got.

I'm short so even losing a miserly stone would make a massive difference to me but I can't sem to do it.

I just feel like a fat greedy failure. And I'm not depressed. I have lovely family and friends. I work part time and get time to myself.

I know no one can wave a magic wand for me but I just felt like unloading here.

Hi Candid, it's hard isn't it, so bloody hard just to get motivated to lose that 1 stone. Every day I wake up thinking today will be the day I will be good, it never works. I wish I knew the answer so will watch your post with interest. Good luck x

I understnad how hard it is to make big changes to your diet. You do really want to but it isn't easy some days.

I decided last summer it would be my last fat summer. I gave my self the rest of the year to not think about dieting. I enjoyed my food, but had it in my head to go back to WW in the new year. It took the 6 months to get it right in my head.

It has been an up and down year got PG but mc at 12 weeks. I have now lost 3.5 stone and have 1.5 to go it is a long journey, I have weeks where I just can't do it, but get back on track when my head is right. It is a bumpy road but is worth the effort.

The way I see it you have three options:

1. Make a massive lifestyle change starting now. This is the option that tends to work best for me. I decided to lose weight on a Thursday afternoon and I started right then rather than in the morning or on Monday. I've gone for cutting out starchy foods almost completely and upping my protein intake. I'm eating 1,000-1,200 calories a day without feeling hungry or deprived. I've lost a stone in the four weeks I've been doing it which is 20% of the weight I need to lose.

1. Make small changes. Assuming you aren't currently gaining weight, you just need to cut your food intake by about 100 calories a day to have lost a pound in a month so this time next year you'd be almost a stone lighter. To lose a whole stone in a year you just need to cut out 134 calories a day which is less than the number of calories in 2 hobnobs. Assuming you have a two hobnob a day habit, if you swap them for a carrot you'll be a stone lighter next year. You should try joining myfitnesspal.com and recording everything you eat for a week or two, it will give you a better idea of how many calories there are in the food you are eating. I'd be very surprised if there wasn't something you're eating that you could happily forgo. If there really isn't then you could burn off your 134 calories a day by going for a 20-30 minute walk. If you can cut out the two hobnobs and go for a 30 minute walk you'll be two stone lighter in a year.

1. Don't do anything, stay fat and next year when you are helping your DC with their Halloween costumes remember this thread and think about how you could have been a stone lighter if you had just managed to cut the equivalent of two hobnobs out of your diet.

Hi Candid.... its really horrible to feel the way you do, you remind me of me! I put on about 3 stone whilst i was pregnant and im still carrying most of it around with me now, 12 months later!
I could not get motivated at all, until i joined weight watchers about 3 weeks ago (i was becoming really down about it) and since joining, i have lost 14Ibs!I still eat the occassional nice stuff, just less of it, but the key for me was the shame of the weigh in days, if i did'nt stick to the plan.
I get out and about a bit more, opting to walk instead of driving where poss, and its working! I feel better already... you can do it, just think of all the nice clothes you could be wearing by Christmas if you start now!

Good Luck

I appreciate all the advice so thanks.
Queenstromba point no. 3 has given me a kick up the backside.
I know I can do better than 'give up 2 hob nobs' as you say. I can give up most of the useless junk food AND I can get exercising more.

Tomorrow is the start of losing a stone [hsmile]

I'm glad to hear my post worked - I think most of us need a good kick up the arse to get us started.

Hi Candid read your post and thought it was me! Just like you I promise myself that this time I will do it but never find the motivation to carry it through.

Today I had my first weight watchers meeting and I am feeling really positive about it now especially after hearing about all the sucess the other members have had since joining.

I'm glad you have decided to make a change, and am looking forward to hearing how you are getting on.

I am having exactly the same problem as you.

This time last year I was 9 stone, and a slim size 10. Now, I am 11 1/2 stone and a 14/16.

I am so so angry with myself for getting this big but i just cannot seem to find the motovation to shift it, even though I am due to be bridesmaid next Sept.

I think maybe I need to join a slimming group because I sure as hell aren't getting anywhere on my own.

I'm doing ok at the moment. I remind myself what Queenstromba said that I could basically decide to do nothing and stay fat or make some changes. I choose to make the changes.

I've not had any 'bad' food since Sat when I went out for a meal with friends.

I've had a banana and yoghurt for breakfast mostly though this morning I had quorn sausages and tomatoes.
I've been snacking on fruit and a few almonds.
Lunches have been salad with pasta or couscous or soup and some bread.
Dinner has been chicken with veg mostly and I've had fat free vanilla yoghurt for afters.

I've also started making a few other changes. I bought some jojoba oil after reading about it here and have been using it on my skin and hair.
I've got out my body brush again and bought myself a dress and boots in my current size so I feel a bit better about myself. The boots will stay but I'm hoping to be buying a dress one size down in a few weeks. Definitely by Xmas !

Please do let me know how you're all getting on. I love hearing about other peoples progress. I find it really inspiring

Ok so I think I need to admit to myself that I'm greedy. Plain and simple. Lazy and greedy x

When I do the supermarket shop I just have to pick up crisps and biscuits. Then when I'm home in the evening I can't stop thinking about food until I've eaten the whole bag of crisps or half the pack of biscuits. If I had to eat a piece of fruit instead I'd rather go without. I am constantly picking at stuff I shouldn't. And I keep making cakes and biscuits!

I encourage the dc's to eat healthily. I walk every day but mostly at the pace of a toddler which probably doesn't count. Other than that I don't do any exercise.

I hate that I've got so fat but sometimes the sheer delight and relief of tucking into my favourite snack is overwhelming. I think that's weird tbh but I don't know how to kick the habit.

I see lots of slim attractive mums at the school gate and I just want to hide. I don't want my dc's to have the 'fat mum'.

I tried WW once and absolutely hated it. I was always hungry and seemed to hit a plateau that I couldn't get through. I lost half a stone and that was it.

I'm a size 16/18 and I should think I weigh at least 12 stone if not more.

I really need to do something, I think I'm getting fatter and it's so frustrating to know that I don't seem to be able to stop myself. I'm a grown woman ffs!

Rant over, thank you if you've got this far. If anyone has got any advice, feel free.

Wow, It no surprise you have food issues after your childhood . But you ARE capable of making a change and if feeling good about yourself again.

Have you tried lowering the amount of carbs you eat? Sugar addiction really plays havoc with blood sugar and insulin levels, causing you to feel hungry when you may have eaten loads of calories.

I'm limiting my carbs at the moment and really don't feel like I'm on a diet. I never feel hungry and have been consistently losing weight. Come and join us on the low carb thread!

Goodness sorry candid - ignore the childhood bit, was getting you confused with someone else on another thread