Mental weight loss as well as physical.

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This has been bothering me for a while and it but it's something which is really starting to frustrate me and I was wondering if anyone else has experienced the same thing!

I have now lost a total of 3 1/2 stone. I've succesfully lost in the past after my previous 2 pregnancies through watching what I eat and exercise. It just so happens that this time I've lost that bit more that has taken me to the lightest I have been for at least 10 years. I'm a nice size 14 which is what in my head I'd been aiming for.

However I look in the mirror and I see NO difference to how I was a year ago! In the past when I'd lost weight I was feeling wonderful about it. But this time I feel nothing what so ever. Not a thing! I don't feel pleased with myself, I don't feel like I've achieved anything amazing. People complement me often which is great but I just still see fault with my body and am not satisfied with my weight loss. Where as a year ago had someone said to me you'll wake up tomorrow at the weight I am now I'd have thought it was the greatest thing ever!

So what's wrong with me? Why do I feel like this? I know I keep moving my goal posts too. Now I feel I won't be happy until I'm a size 12 but being a size 12 is almost completely alien to me! Size 12??! Wtf.

Could I be feeling this way because I've not reached where I am with exercise? Previously it's been key to it all and it's the only thing I can think of that is different. It's really pissing me off because I know I've done well so why do I still look in the mirror and see a big fat piggy-wig staring back at me??? Aaaaargh.

I really see where you are coming from! Could have written post myself. Kept on moving goal post.....

Anyway eventually got to be a size 8, 8 stone 7lbs, was previously a size 12 which is where I was aiming for initially (around 9 12). And I am now very happy with my weight and how I look (finally!).

A few things - yes I am super fit now - did a duathlon 2 weeks ago and have sprint triathlon on sunday. And also I have a nicely toned body.

A few things that helped - 1) I promised myself a present when I reached my target and I went out and bought it. Also bought some new clothes. 2) I got to the point where my BMI was 20 and my body fat 18% so actually I couldn't reduce my target further. At the same time was told that I shouldn't lose more weight. 3) Finally my thighs don't chaff (have done ever since puberty!)

So now i don't see a fat piggy-wig as I really am not carrying any excess fat, ie my stomach has definition!!!!

I'd say if you are still motivated go for it and lose a bit more and also do some exercise.

Hi I totally get where you are. I have not got to goal yet but I have lost 2 stone which 9 months ago I was desperate for and yet I see no difference, none whatsoever. I can see that I am buying size 14 clothes and I can see that my previous clothes are too big but when I am naked in the mirror all I see is the same person I saw 9 months ago....really weird. I am going to keep going as I definately still do not look as good as I thought I would with two stone lost. I think for me though the reason I can't see it is because I have done it so slowly, I could easily have lost two stone in 4/5 months but I haven't been as rigid as I should have so maybe that's the reason?

Also I haven't been this weight since I had my daughter 8 years ago and I had in my minds eye that my shape would go back to what it was before I had her and of course it hasn't, I have a much wobblier tummy and a gorgeous cesearean hangover and I am much older so have bingo wings, wobblier bottom etc. I have been exercising but only walking fast with the dog for the last three weeks or so - I think I need to up the exercise!!