I've been dieting for 20 years reached the end of my rope

[sofatandsofedup]

I just don't know what to do. I'm a regular but have name changed because it's not in my nature to be so depressed about something. :(

I am 35 and have been dieting for 20 years. All my life I have felt unacceptably fat. As a child I was in the slightly heavier half of my peer group and this has worsened to the point where I am now 5 stone overweight.

I have 5 children and my whole day is taken up looking after them. My husband works long hours and gives next to no help in the house. I am an emotional eater :( :(

I never wear nice clothes and very rarely make up. I never look in the mirror and feel good about how I look. I have tried weight watchers and slimming world countless times and do well for about a month. Then something throws me off track and I can't seem to get back on. I always end up feeling such a failure for not managing to stick to it.

I feel so down and desperate about this and don't know what to do next. It's such a vicious cycle. I feel bad about myself so I eat, which makes me feel bad...

Can anyone help me gain some perspective on this please? :(

Please come to our Paul Mckenna thread his is exactly the way of eating you're looking for IMO no dieting, no cal counting or weighing and it works! re educating yr attitude to food.

Try breaking out of your cycle of "I am unacceptably fat".... "I am a failure"....."I feel bad about myself"...... apparently we believe whatever we repeat to ourselves over and over again....it is like we are hypnotising ourselves...no wonder we end up feeling bad about ourselves.

Instead repeat good affirming things over and over again........it will make you feel better I promise you and then you will be in a better place to eat healthily etc

Best of luck and with 5 children and virtually no help it's no wonder you get down but it will get better. xx

He also deals with self image which it sounds you could do with he says be kind to yrself it is brill!!

I was going to write the same as ppeatfruit, come to the Paul McKenna thread and stop dieting - the definition of insanity is to keep doing the same thing and expecting different results. If you've been dieting for 20 years and you're still fat then try something different.

I'm also going to suggest the Paul Mckenna thread :)

sofa are we going to see you on the Paul Mckenna thread ? It really IS the answer as Queen and Howto my thread mates confirmed!!

Thanks for the advice ladies. I have been and bought the book last night. I'll join you in my real name :)

I was going to suggest Paul McKenna as well - I lost all my weight low carbing but maintain using his approach as it makes so much sense.

HOORAY well done sofa your on the way up now mentally of course!!!