The Last Time I Will Lose Weight Club - small steps to retrain our brains and succeed.

[AngryLardArse]

Thought I would start this as a follow up to my 'fucking furious I am fat' thread.

I want this to be the last time I ever need to lose weight so I don't have to waste any more of my life thinking 'if only I could lose this weight'. I WILL succeed this time, then I will move on and live my life with a new way of thinking about myself and food.

It may take a year, but what is a year out of my life getting fit when I have spent the last 15 being fat?

Anyone who wants to take it slowly, not follow any particular diet plan, and focus on changing the way we think is welcome.

We deserve to feel good, feel fit, feel healthy.

Come on here to rant and swear and share how you are feeling about yourself throughout the 'journey'.

We will FUCKING WELL DO IT THIS TIME!

I read your other thread :(

Good luck, dont think too far ahead take 1 day at a time and small steps.

Write on here your food diary if it helps ?

I will join you. I read you're thread, but didn't comment as I have very little advise. As you are me. All I need now is for you to tell me you are 5ft8 and I will be convinced we are the same person.

My aims atm is to eat three meals a day and stop starving myself and then gorging. Snacks are okay, but should be healthy i.e. fruit, yoghurt etc. And to stop having something with chips and gravy (made from a lard base) from work for lunch.

I am walking the dogs longer and when I feel ready will start exercising more.

I am in! I want to be slimmer, I NEED to be slimmer.

Will start by making small changes, walking more, eating less crap and portion sizes... well you would think I was feeding an army the amount I cook.

Good Luck everyone.

dooin hello.

I'm in x

Welcome Doin and Jax! Thank you mumto2.

Well I have just WALKED into town (about 2 miles) and back and re-registered at Esporta. They have an excellent gym, pool and sauna/steam room, and also Yoga classes which I will definitely do WHEN i get to the stage that I can cross my legs! I do enjoy the gym when I get there, it's just that I suddenly stop going for any excuse, normally just when I'm starting to feel better .

Next to do is a massive daily routine spreadsheet which I shall stick up in the kitchen so I cannot miss it. This will tell me what to do each day. It sounds stupid but I need to make sure I can't make excuses to myself that I don't have time to get to the gym. I shall list when I need do the washing & ironing/shopping/cleaning/cooking/school run/go to baby group/when I go to bed/get up etc. I want to have everything listed so I don't get a chance to say to myself 'I can't do it all'. I have a 6month old as well as school age DCs and am also studying for a degree in Maths and Economics (another NY resolution ) so I will have my work cut out! I will find the time though and will hopefully be soooo busy, I will eat less anyway.

Dooin - yes I am 5ft 8 .

MsKlo - welcome!

Hi, I found your thread last night and have follwed you here, as I'm obviously your reflection.

but looking to the future.

AngryLardArse, I think you should change your name and dont be so hard on yourself. I think we 'fail' as women when we try to do too much. Baby steps is what we all need.

Well done on walking and joining.

You're spreadsheet doesn't sound silly to me. I could do with one. But I agree with Jax, don't be too hard on yourself. This is where we make the mistakes. We set off to do it all at once and be incrediably good from now on until forever, never miss the gym or gorge on chocolates again, and when we make it a little mistake, we end up feeling so down about it, because our epectations of ourselves are so high, it all goes out the window and we feel worse than when we started.

I'm trying just to take things slowly atm. I have spent the last 5 years eating crap and not looking after myself properly, I figure it's going to take more than 5 minutes to totally change my habits. I expect I will slip up, a lot at first, but all I can do is keep trying. No more of 'the sod, it. I'm crap. I'll start next week'

I need to have a daily routine as I get too bogged down in the 'small stuff' like cleaning and shopping and then get stressed out about it and start to hate myself because I can't get things done that need doing - like my health and wellbeing!

At the moment my days are typically like this - get up at the last possible moment in the morning (probably 7.30am) when I know I should get up at 6.30 to get out of the door at 8.15 for the schoolrun without stress and strain. Cue me shouting at the DCs to hurry up and chucking on whatever is ironed after a 2 minute shower and a quick hairbrush and 30 seconds on my makeup. Quickly feed, wash and dress baby and out the door without even so much as a coffee. Come home after schoolrun feeling like shit because all the other mums look slim and well groomed and instead of starting the DCs day off happily, I've shouted at them when I did not want to (even though they are lazy buggers and will not do anything without me telling them to do it 20 million times!). Then I will come home feeling guilty and horrid and sit in front of the TV with a 4 course breakfast and the next time I look at the clock it's almost lunchtime, so I will then again rush round doing the housework, then realise that I need shopping to make dinner, so rush to Tesco and then pick DCs up. Get home, again sit in front of TV, realise it's 5pm, rush round doing dinner, homework etc. Then baths and bed, cleaning up, then sit down again at 9pm and realise what a shit day I've had!

The reason I get up so late is because I don't got to bed until midnight because I am sitting on my bum watching TV, mning or comtemplating what went wrong with me, although the baby does also wake up during the night so I have that as an excuse as well.

It all has to change .

I'm in too! Like the idea of a spreadsheet but wouldn't know where to start??

Hi like the new place Think you should change your name too tbh.

I like the idea of the spreadsheet. Think I'll have to start making a list? I'm naturally lazy so could do with motivation.

Good luck with this I'll be watching and picking up tips

How is every one doing? Yesterday was good for me, but I was at work for the vast part of the day (spilt shift) and walking with the dogs for the rest, so I didn't really have time to over eat. I also managed not to order any chips from work.

Free chips will be a problem to me. They are just so much more comforting than noodles/boiled rice when you are cold, hungry and ill . I have been doing more in the slow cooker, though, so I know I have nice comforting stews etc to come home to.

Hello, I'm in!
Followed your thread on AIBU, could have written it myself. But, lets not look at the past. Onwards ...
I too will be aiming to eat 3 meals a day, plus healthy snacks only. I don't plan to calorie count, merely attempt a healthier approach to eating.
And I aim to be more physically active - take my DD out on her bike or swimming on the days I'm not working, and park my car further from the office on days I have to work.
Trouble is, my DP loves me the way I am and we love to tuck into snacks in the evenings - we have cupboards overflowing with chocs, biscs etc from Christmas.

I fear my willpower is not strong enough.

Hello all.

Just back from the gym! I thoroughly enjoyed it after making a conscious decision to not care what anyone thought of me. Also decided not to take any notice of how many calories I burned and just take it easy until it starts getting easy! Had a lovely swim, sauna, jacuzzi and steam afterwards .

I have not started making any changes to my eating habits just yet. I shall start making subtle changes to breakfast first (one meal at a time) from next week. So instead of 3 toasts with peanut butter, 2 weetabix with milk and sugar, a yoghurt and a large coffee , I will cut out the toast first and see how I go.

Baby steps, baby steps.

Still yet to make up a daily routine. I shall have one by Monday!

CantTakeMuchMore are you AngryLardyArse?

Yes! Ooops.

Well done so far! Keep posting!

Hello everyone, can I join in? I am about a stone overweight, have carried the extra for about 5 years now . I am just not very kind to myself...I eat rubbish, drink tonnes and am lazy .

I read a book yesterday (men, money and chocolate), all about loving yourself and everything else falls into place , think it is worth a try. I have started the day with coffee, two jaffa cakes and am still in my pjs, not a great start but I am thinking in the right direction...apologies for long first post.

I like that you changed your name

How have things been going for everyone?

I've not been too bad, but not brilliant either.

I've only had chips once though, which is better than five times a week

I haven't weighed myself yet, but my jeans feel slightly less tight. I still haven't started exercising, but we are doing baby steps so that's okay. I have been out with the dogs more than usual.

I think I will start exercising maybe three times a week from Monday.