Do I invite someone I REALLY don't like?

[bluesheep]

Hope someone can help me, as I have no idea what to do!

I am organising my wedding for next May, and we are having quite a small number of people for the ceremony & meal (around 50).

DF and I wrote our list and amazingly we agreed on everybody we wanted to be there, but after chatting with the manager at the hotel we are holding our reception we realised we could invite a couple more people.

DF suggested his cousin, which is no problem as we get on fine. Unfortunately I cannot bear his girlfriend. She is very loud, very opinionated and we just don't get on at all. She has a habit of getting very drunk and making a total arse of herself - at her sister-in-law's wedding she got so pissed she was flashing her boobs at everyone during the drinks reception, then did so much class-A in the loos during the evening do that she fell into a gibbering wreck in the corner and had to be carried out.

So, would it be really rude to invite DF's cousin, but not his girlfriend? We can only afford to have 50 people to join us, and I can't really bear the idea of seeing her as I walk down the aisle. Help - am I being bridezilla?

Gosh - don't think you can invite the cousin without the girlfriend - unless you can openly discuss her appaling behaviour with him. She sounds a nightmare. Can't you get her arrested for the Class A use

Don't invite either of them, as you can't invite one without the other. She sounds horrendous, you aren't being a bridezilla imho.

How will your df take it though?

Well I suppose you can hope that the cousin will dump the girlfriend before the wedding (though when you say girlfriend do you mean long-term cohabitee with whom he has DC?). YOu might be OK with not inviting her if she is only a casual date sort of GF, but when someone has a longterm partner, however vile you think that partner is, it's not just rude but a bit controlling to invite one without the other to an event where most other guests will be bringing partners.
Maybe use those spare 2 places for another couple, both of whom are nice, or two single people.

you are stuck i think, invite him and assume he'll bring her or dont invite him and save yourself the hassle. Personally i wouldnt risk it especially as its small too.

You really can't invite the cousin without his girlfriend, so I'd invite neither.

Thanks for the answers, in my heart I know it would be rude to invite DF's cousin without his girlfriend. They have been together for quite a while (off and on - they have split up numerous times so here's hoping they'll do it again!!) so still don't know what to do. DF really would like his cousin there, as they are more friends than relatives, so either he'll be disappointed that his cousin won't be there, or I'll be grinding my teeth because she will.

Bugger it. I was trying so hard not to be wound up or picky about anything, and I was winning as well!! Will just have to have another argument discussion with DF and see what he thinks.

You only have to invite partners if they are a long-term item / live together, not if they are faily casual just dating or only recently got together.