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Questionable behaviour from husband's friend and her mum

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bopple · 17/05/2026 19:12

So my husband's friend from university brought her mum as a +1 to our wedding recently. She brings her as a +1 to all weddings, so I'd met her before at another one. During that, we got on really well (related because they're a single parent family and I was in a similar situation with my mum) and even had a few in-jokes by the end of the night.

Fast forward to my wedding and both of them turned up in head to toe off-white dresses... I was a bit shocked but didn't make anything of it, it was only a few weeks later when catching up with friends they made comments about how inappropriate it was and how they wouldn't have been as calm in that scenario.

During our wedding, the mum made a comment to me about how she wished someone would talk about her daughter the way my husband talks about me, which I thought was sweet. Overall we were having a nice time dancing together for a bit and then I saw them chatting to my mum which I thought was nice. I then learned (from my husband) that, on the wedding night, the mum said to him that she wished he was marrying her daughter instead. He laughed it off, but I thought it was a really weird thing to say...

I'm not mad at my husband because I trust him and he didn't do anything wrong (and they were friends for years before me so if something was going to happen, it would have), but I'm a bit hurt by the situation - am I reading too much into it? Is there any way that comment and both wearing off-white could be innocent mistakes?!

We're going to another wedding with them in a few months so I'm not sure how to feel about that.

TLDR: Husband's friend and her mum turned up in white to wedding and mum said she wished her was marrying her daughter instead

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Arlanymor · 17/05/2026 19:14

I wouldn't give a monkeys about what anyone else was wearing - I am sure that no one mistook either for the bride!

Yes that comment about the mother's wishes is a bit creepy and odd, but you married him. She just sounds really indiscreet and I feel sorry for her daughter.

PennySweeet · 17/05/2026 19:18

Couldn't care less what colour they wore but they do sound a bit strange.

BeatriceMontgomeryHoward · 17/05/2026 19:19

as strange as it is, its not uncommon with some people

Ohcrap082024 · 17/05/2026 19:22

Definitely strange. I would find it quite fascinating to sit back and watch them a bit at the next wedding.

eish · 17/05/2026 19:22

I was at a friend’s wedding (from sixth form). His dad said to me ‘we thought it was going to be you for a while… would’ve been nice’. I was really embarrassed! (Nothing between friend and I). But I laughed it off. They’re still happily married 15 years later thankfully. Just ignore and crack on, does your DH know?

Ilovelurchers · 17/05/2026 19:45

None of it sounds like a big deal. I honestly wouldn't worry about it.

Congratulations on your marriage!

7238SM · 17/05/2026 19:58

I'd wonder if the 'friend' has special needs or some other issue that she has no other friends to invite to weddings and only takes her mum! The wearing white and the comment is very odd too.

As someone else said, I'd sit back and watch the goings on at the next wedding.

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