How to handle my hen do sensitively during a friend's divorce

[RetroRainbow]

I am getting married this year (eloping) and planning a low key hen do, but I have just found out that one of my best friends’ husbands is pushing for a divorce. Understandably, her mental health is not good at the moment, so I don’t want to make it worse by ‘rubbing in’ my happiness and bringing up the hen do. Equally, I obviously don’t want to leave her out. Any suggestions of how to proceed?

Just invite her as you would do the others, you don’t have to tiptoe around her

Dont make any special dispensation that makes it worse just add her to the group chat about your hen!

Eloping with a hen do is an oxymoron surely?

She might enjoy a distraction.

Text her tho, so she can process the invitation in her own time.

What a kind friend you are, considering your friend like this.

I would invite her, if it's too much for her, maybe go for afternoon tea to celebrate your engagement or something like that, just you and her to give her an extra option. Win win, extra celebration for you!

It’s not eloping if you have a hen do. It’s just small wedding, that’s lovely and totally normal! Just invite her along with everyone else, she might welcome a night out, if she can’t face it she’ll decline. She’ll probably feel really embarrassed if she’s singled out as potentially too vulnerable for a normal invitation.

You’re not eloping if you’re telling everyone, you’re just having a small wedding :)

But anyway, just invite her like everyone else, assuming she already knows you’re engaged it’s not going to be a huge surprise.

Ask her what she wants, if you know her well. People handle things in different ways and she'll appreciate you letting her tell you what works for her.

You are having a small wedding @RetroRainbow
You are not eloping and if you say you are in RL to the guests, they will look at you and think…. wtf?