Is this even a thing?

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We got an invitation to an evening wedding do (friend’s son) and it’s an hour or so drive away. We were touched they’d invited us and said yes.

Mentioned to someone else and they said “oh that’ll just be a courtesy invite, they’re not actually expecting you to go as it’s an hour away”. Do people really send those? I’m now second guessing myself and thinking maybe they don’t actually want us to go!

Never heard of a courtesy invite! Definitely go if you want to! My friends invited our parents for the evening do at their weddings…

I wouldn’t interpret it that way at all.

No such thing as a courtesy invite. They want you to go but will understand if you don’t because of the distance.

Tosh.

They invited you because they wanted to invite you.

You friend is weird! An hour is not a long drive either!

Of course not! They’ve invited you because they want you there. Definitely go!

Of course you’re invited! Your friend is strange. Or jealous that they’re not invited??

Your friend is talking nonsense, weddings cost £ per head so courtesy or provisional invitations aren’t a thing

What a load of rubbish - they’ve invited you as they want you there

Absolute nonsense. You may well have been invited because your friend wanted you there but definitely not a courtesy invite.

I don’t think the person who told you this is very nice.

Even if the bride and groom don’t care that much, your friend will want you there! I think it’s lovely.

Your friend is talking nonsense - and an hour is my commute, it's nothing!

I think your friend is talking nonsense. We sent a courtesy invite out but it was to DH’s granny and grandad. We knew they weren’t well enough to come but wanted them to feel included and know we would have liked them there if they could have come. Completely different circumstances

An hour isn't that far. They would like you to go if you can.

Of course they want you to go. Courtesy invite indeed.
Please go and have a lovely time. Pay no attention to the party pooper.

They’ve invited you and an hour is nothing to travel for a wedding

I think there absolutely is such a thing as a courtesy invite but that doesn’t mean you should therefore decline. You know the relation between yourself and the bride and groom so you can figure out whether you’re a guest of them directly or a guest of your friend/ their mother. Either way it doesn’t matter, you are invited and if you would like to go then you absolutely should.

Rubbish!!! Youll be much wanted by your friend! Never heard of that before!

Your friend is being ridiculous. Of course they invite expecting you to say yes! While I don’t get this whole day invite/evening invite thing, be sure in the knowledge that they invited you because they wanted you.

What a nonsense. We sent a couple of invites that could be considered ‘courtesy’ but they were to people that we wanted there, but already knew that they would be very unlikely to be able to come, due to distance or ill-health (or in DH’s Brother’s case because he used to live where we do and apparently burnt some bridges when he left ). To invite anyway and receive a negative was preferable to not inviting and them thinking we didn’t want them there.

If they HAD accepted they’d have been welcomed!

Everyone else we invited because we wanted them there, of course.

A courtesy invite is one where you don’t expect the invitees to make a long and expensive trip, but you would very much like them to be there.

it’s about not making the guests feel obliged. It’s not something you send to people you don’t want to invite.

and an hour is no distance at all ! I would have had zero guests at my wedding if I only invited people working 1 hour of the venue!

We have accepted, I just don’t want to feel out of place but thanks for the reassurance!

Completely ignore your bitchy friend. The invite will have been sent because they really want you there! Go and enjoy!

Your friend is a piece of work.