Would you attend a wedding 1.5 hours away 2.5 weeks before due date?

[Newmum1996]

would you go to a wedding 1.5 hours away 2.5 weeks before your due date? My partner is groomsman and doesn’t drive at the moment (medical) so I would have to drive it or rely on somebody else. All our friends are staying in hotels but I’d rather come home so if I do happen to go into labor the night, my mum would be round the corner. And my dad would look about my older child.

I feel like it’s silly to go and somewhat dangerous for me to drive being that close to DD but I’d be soooo gutted to miss it!! :(

what baby number is it? How are you feeling and do you WANT to go?

It is unlikely that you’ll go into labour before 38 weeks so I would go as long as there’s a good maternity hospital nearby. I would expect my partner to stay sober and look to book a hotel and enjoy the break.

I would.

I’d go if I thought I’d enjoy it but would have a back up plan for going into Labour while there . If I wasn’t bothered about the people there I wouldn’t go

I wouldn't but probably because I had dc2 at 37 weeks (i may havefelt differently havinghad dc1 at 40 weeks. How does DP plan on getting back if you stayed home and went into labour? What would happen if you had baby at a hospital near the wedding logistically eg getting home/looking after older dc etc? Are you likely to go into labour early? What's your pregnancy been like? With dc1 I was working till 38 weeks, dc2 I was on bed rest from 24 weeks. So would definitely depend on these factors.

Yes it's not that far. I spent Christmas Day at my sisters house (a two hour drive from home) the week DC1 was due. I figured if contractions started I'd just get in the car and go straight to the hospital I was booked in at, or in an emergency, go to her nearest hospital which was pretty close.

Yes, I’d go.

Yes I would. But take your notes and your hospital bags with you just in case. Also, check where the closest hospital to the venue is.

I’d go and same as you, I’d want to drive home that night, not drinking anyway and it’s not too far.
I’d bring notes and hospital bag just in case.

Yes, I would go, unless it was in the middle of somewhere remote. I would also check where the nearest hospital is before going, and make a plan B in case anything develops.

Well my DC were both born at 37 weeks so it's a no from me!

Yes but I would make a plan for someone to be on hand to come and get me if I did go in to labour

Two of mine were born at 37 weeks but I would go. It’s not that far!

I think it depends, I hated being away from the house at 30 weeks plus but if I could sleep in my own bed it’s a possibility. I think you maybe need some guidance from DH, is he planning on drinking heavy? Could you leave at a sensible time like 9-10pm. I would hate to go into labour and my DH puking due to drinking too much 🤣

100% take your notes / hospital bag and fit your car seat. Worse case you give birth at a closer hospital and need a way of getting them home.

I was induced at 38 weeks for a surprise medical issue so that makes a difference for me deciding.

If you feeling comfortable, keep hydrated, and actually if you like dancing it might bring along your labour if you are lucky

I went to a wedding 1.5 hours away a couple of days after my due date. The difference was that my DP was able to drive (didn't drink) and my mum lives round the corner from the wedding venue in my home town. So I felt fairly confident that we could get home if needed and have support locally if anything came up. DD was 12 days overdue in the end so I'm glad I did.

Yes.

No I wouldn’t. My DC were born at 37 and 38w and by that time I was very uncomfortable and wouldn’t have enjoyed sitting down / standing up / being dressed up for long periods.

With my second I went to a big 30th at a nice venue in London, an hour away and at 35 weeks at the time I was absolutely knackered, uncomfortable carrying a huge bump and just wanted to be at home. Driving was uncomfortable too.

I did with DS1 - although DH drove.
What would happen if you went into labour at the wedding - you couldn't drive home.

I also went to my parents (2 5 hs away) at 38.5 weeks for Easter with DS2.

With dc 1,3 and 4 I could have done this. Felt fine and active - actually had loads more energy in the last few weeks! With Dc2 I couldn’t- I was exhausted, heavy and found everything difficult. So entirely depends on how you feel I think.
eta mine were all born 40+ weeks except for dc2 who was born on due date

There's no right answer, it depends on how you feel. I was fit for nothing in the last couple of weeks, never mind wedding guest material.

my best friend had a wedding party 3 weeks before my due date which was a 3 hour drive away. My DD was born the day before, I had thankfully made the decision not to go even though it broke my heart to miss it. I would have been in a hotel 3 hours from home when my waters broke if I had stuck to my original plan!

Yes

I did this 1 week before my due date with my first. Dh was drinking so I was driving. I had a back up plan for if i went into labour at the wedding (a friend who wasnt drinking).
I wouldnt have gone if I hadnt have felt ok.

It's not quite the same thing, but I worked 1 hour away from home until 37 weeks. I was travelling by public transport, not driving. I found driving tough by that stage.

If you want to go and feel up to the driving, then go. I wouldn't like the idea of DH going without me if he didn't have a way to get home if needed i.e. not driving. I'd rather be together. I'd probably consider leaving my DC at home with grandparents though, just in case.

Both mine were born at 41 weeks, so I still had a long time left at that point.

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