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Money advice - what would you do

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Bunting12345 · 27/01/2026 23:02

Hi!

If you had a relatively good job with good prospects but owned a home that is a ‘project’ in the south (affluent area with a high mortgage) how would you choose to do your wedding/prioritise spending? FYI household income under £100k combined.

Circumstances:

  • 30s
  • Can realistically save £24k in the next 3 years and would be gifted a minimum of £5k for a wedding (maybe more). This includes any money for house work.
  • Would like to have a child in the next 4 years
  • Owe £10K re. a casual loan

Other factors:

  • I have an intense job and sometimes CBA with the idea of planning/mental load of organising large wedding and the politics involved (inc with fiancé!)
  • Really want to improve house and living environment, particularly before a child.
  • Still want to celebrate but don’t want it to be shit. Likely guest list would involve 80-100 people, even if it was a party so it’s hard to have a small celebration.

Have toyed with the idea of a ‘wedding party’ instead and Registry office with immediate family, or just eloping to save costs and hassle but I wonder if we would regret not doing a proper celebration. Equally, I am keen to not put extra financial pressure on us and start our married lives debt free and in the most comfortable/stress free position possible.

Looking for advice to see what others would do in my situation!

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Ariela · 27/01/2026 23:15

You already owe money, so I wouldn't spend too much. Perfectly possible to do it all on a budget.

Flowers999 · 27/01/2026 23:17

I'm getting married in a registry office on a Monday in June then going on holiday the next day 🤣 never in a million years would i spend thst much on ONE DAY!!

Bunting12345 · 27/01/2026 23:23

Just to confirm I’m not suggesting spending circa £25k on the wedding! I’m just curious as to what people would allocate to each pot in my circumstances (not inc. casual loan as this will be paid at a later stage)

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