Advice

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Hi. My daughter gets married in 3 week. Reg office. Trouble is my grandaughter has been invited. And we havnt spoke for 5 month. I was on my own at xmas. Because of her.didnt get to see gt grandchildren xmas or birthdays last year. My gt grandson hasn't stayed here for 3 month n we always used to be so close I miss him terribly but have now come to realise I can't sit here crying every day. When my grandaughter was on her own I was always there. Food shopping . 1.000 dep for a flat so the children had a roof. Washing machine. 3 piece suit.dining table. Then she met a man I admit don't like him. He controls her. But she's drawn to his money.expensive cars. Plastic surgery. I mean good luck to her. But don't forget we're you come from. Anyway my daughters invited them to the wedding she hasn't spoken to my daughter for 3 month. I no my daughter wants to keep the piece for her grandchildren. But I can't forgive my grandaughter this time. She has said some of the most hurtful things to me I just can't forgive this time. Ime a widow so on my own. And have no one to go with to the wedding. Please could I have some advice.

It's not about you. Three months isn't long. You need to get over this or you will end up isolated from your entire family. I'd like to hear her side of this, you sound very controlling and like she owes you a certain type of relationship because you've bought her...which is exactly what you are accusing her of doing with her new partner.

Go to the wedding.
Be polite to any/all guests.
You don't need to go with someone.
Your granddaughter can choose to attend or not.
Don't make drama.

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Well don't no what to say really. No one nos what she's put me through.how rude

I can see how you’ve fallen out with your family.

The job of a wedding guest is to help celebrate a special day, go or not. If you then be polite to everyone, say the bride looks lovely and say nice things about the day. It’s about the couple getting married not you.

Show up, smile, go home.

Or dont, and choose to entrench some silly spat.

Go, be gracious and accept the day isn't about you.

It is the natural way of life that younger generations see more of family members when they are single, and have more independent lives when they are in relationships.

Don’t make your daughter’s wedding day about you.
Be polite, kind, make conversation. If you can’t enjoy the day without causing drama you don’t go.

You don’t need anyone to go with, your family will be there. You can go and show support for your daughter quietly and without fuss. Whether or not you forgive your granddaughter isn’t relevant to this wedding. You can be in the same room as her and remain polite.