How many gifts for marriage?

[bumbaloo]

I’m old. I’m pre some things. Please would someone educate me on how things are done now.

is it expected to bring/buy a gift for an engagement party, bridal shower, bachelorette/hen party and wedding?

is it 4 gifts now????
at what value? Are they all supposed to be of the same value or is there a sliding scale

Engagement party as with any party I would bring a small gift. Eg bottle of prosecco or fancy chocolates.
Bridal shower- I wouldn’t go as the whole idea seems really tacky to me (uk). If it was my future daughter in law then I would have to go and I would ask her if the gift list was or for a general idea. (I don’t have a future daughter in law but I’m a mum of sons so I would make a big effort for their future partners but for anyone else I wouldn’t bother).
Hen party- I have been to many and never brought a gift. You normally end up paying for the hen though. So for example if there are 16 of you staying in the accommodation then 15 of you pay so the hen is covered.
Wedding I would bring a gift as ultimately they are feeding you. £50 if just me or £100 for a couple (not that I have a partner but in theory).

I think what the pp said seems very reasonable. Not sure what a bridal shower is 🤦🏽‍♀️ maybe I’m old too 🤣. For a wedding I would generally gift more however. I’m not from the UK originally so tradition for us is gift the amount that it costs the bride and groom to feed you. We are a family of 5 so I would go around the £250 mark for a friend and more for family.

So smaller gift for engagement and bigger gift for wedding, nothing for hen.

bridal showers are new to be too. But they obviously require a gift because that’s what showers are for. Something I really don’t want becoming standard here Shelly no one can expect a shower gift AND a wedding gift?