Is it normal to go on honeymoon not immediately after the wedding?

[Amby99]

I’m 9 weeks pregnant and getting married to my fiance at around 20 weeks. For reasons I probably don’t need to explain to people I wasn’t on contraception due to a low egg count on a scan. I knew I always wanted to be pregnant and so infertility scared me more than getting pregnant before marriage.

anyway - so that’s why the marriage is a whirlwind and it’s very unlikely we will be able to go on a honeymoon.

I guess we could go to a romantic country hotel immediately after but Maldives or somewhere is probably completely off the cards due to wedding finances and just being sensible before the baby arrives (which is what really matters).

so I was thinking instead we could go next summer when the baby is 3/4/5 months old to a really great Greek island. I would love to go on holiday with the baby - I’ve always loved seeing families with their below 1 year olds so that doesn’t scare me.

Is this a bad idea? Of course it’s never going to be ‘romantic’ as it would be if it were just the two of us and I guess what I’m asking is, is this a bad idea? I guess it wouldn’t be classed as a ‘honeymoon’

even if we could go away somewhere after the wedding, I might be so tired, swollen and fatigued and anywhere hot and tropical this time of year is at least a 9 hour flight, which usually I love but being pregnant I’d imagine would be tricky.

Having a few days break somewhere in the UK to relax after the wedding is rather nice, if you can afford it. That would be your honeymoon.

Then, entirely separately, if you want a big holiday the following year, then have a big holiday the following year. (We actually did this 35 years ago).

I personally wouldn't with a baby, but that's a different question.

Re your work giving you an extra 7 days AL when you get married (how nice !), I would presume this is offered at the time of your wedding, to support you at the time of the wedding not some random holiday in the future though. I would not count on that.

When I got married the first time we went on honeymoon the next day, and honestly it was a right bloody faff- we were exhausted and there were so many more logistics to consider post the wedding. Will be having a gap before the honeymoon this time!

It's just a holiday if you take it a year later with the baby, but of course you can do what you want. You don't have to have a honeymoon.

If you want an actual honeymoon, then book a UK break somewhere nice for a few days.

On our wedding night we went and stayed in the poshest hotel in our city (our reception venue was a social club so didn't have accommodation) then went on the cheapest short haul holiday we could get shortly after.

We would have considered a short break in the UK for a few days in another part of the country if foreign travel was off the cards (DH broke his leg just before we got married so we weren't sure if he was fit to travel).

I think 20 weeks pregnant would actually be a really nice time to go on honeymoon - you’re in the 2nd trimester so not massively uncomfortable and hopefully not feeling sick and exhausted anymore, and honestly a holiday with a baby is not really a holiday - same shit different location. So pregnancy illness / discomfort notwithstanding, I’d go fairly soon after your wedding if I were you