Anyone in this situation or been there

[Ohtobeonthebeach]

Hi. Daughter’s wedding coming next year. I’ve not spoken to her Dad for over 6 years since divorce. Not going into it but DV involved. My daughter isn’t having him walk her down the aisle, they speak but not that often but she wants him there. She said she would feel guilty if she didn’t. Its her and future husbands day and I will respect her wishes and also keep away from him.I Was just wondering should he be sat down before the ceremony and before I sit down ? Should he see her before she does walk down the aisle or go straight into ceremony room. What are people’s thoughts anyone been through this. Any advice warmly welcomed. Thanks for reading.

Those are your daughter’s decisions to make. My dad travelled to the venue with me and walked me down the aisle, I have a friend who wanted her mum to walk her down the aisle but her dad still spent time with her before the ceremony to see the dress & wish her luck, I also have a friend who walked down the aisle alone and had both parents just with the rest of the guests & families in the room waiting. It’s entirely up to her what she decided she’d like to do on her wedding day, there are no “should”’s here. He should do whatever she would like him to do whether that is seeing her beforehand, joining the guests, or anything inbetween.

It’s up to your daughter isn’t it? But it sounds like she’s being thoughtful about it and will have it all under control.

It might be good to find some allies. Maybe siblings or someone else who can help you avoid your ex and deal with any potential nerves on the day. Maybe you can brief them before.