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Bridesmaid Norovirus before wedding

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Zibcl · 28/05/2025 18:57

Help,

Really need some advice. So I am a bridesmaid for one of my oldest friends and we had her hen do on Saturday. It was a lovely weekend but on the drive home on Sunday I was feeling very queasy which I put down to the cocktails the night before. Got home and the kids weren't right both with temperatures...by the evening we were all being sick. Definitely norovirus but a really severe case, I have never felt so ill in my life. It is now Wednesday and I still feel sick with diarrhoea, as do the children so we are clearly still contagious. The wedding is this Saturday and I am supposed to be going to wedding rehearsal and drinks on Friday. If I follow NHS guidelines to be symptom free for 48 hours that means I am definitely going to have to miss the wedding rehearsal on Fri but I'm hoping I will be ok to attend the wedding on Saturday (if I am symptom free for 48hours).....
I haven't told the bride yet because I don't want to panic her but I feel morally I should tell her we all have norovirus and whether she is even happy for us to go now? Or do I keep quiet- if I have been symptom free for 48 hours and just go and enjoy the day and therefore not worrying her and causing her any extra stress?

I'm also concerned that because I started feeling poorly on the way home from the hen do that there is potential that I could have already passed it on unwittingly to the whole bridal party before the wedding anyway?! I am praying none of them start feeling ill in the next few days....Imagine if I am to blame for ruining the whole wedding?! There was really nothing that could have prevented it, I had no idea the kids were poorly and I didn't feel ill before I left for the hen do. So if I'm honest with her now and tell her we all have norovirus but then she does happen to fall ill on her wedding day everyone will blame me and I just don't think I can handle that!

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Springadorable · 28/05/2025 19:00

I'd give it 24 hours. You'll either be better or still in the thick of it, and can then make a call. This late in the day it doesn't make much difference to the outcome of her day. I hope you feel better soon x

ThejoyofNC · 28/05/2025 19:01

Honestly better to be safe than sorry, norovirus is absolutely diabolical. I would plan not to attend and I'd tell bride asap as you've likely infected more people, including the bride, on the hen. She needs to know she's been exposed to that a few days before her wedding!!

user2848502016 · 28/05/2025 19:03

I would tell her too, give her the maximum time to make a plan B if you can’t be there. Hopefully all will be well and you will be able to go on Saturday!

someonehastoberight · 28/05/2025 20:00

I’d see how you are by tomorrow evening. If you are still ill let her know and ask her what she wants you to do. Otherwise I would go if I felt well enough. I wouldn’t mention the weekend she would have Been ill be now if it was a issue.

Pushmepullyou · 28/05/2025 20:24

Norovirus has an up to 48 hr incubation period and isn’t really infectious until you have symptoms so it’s unlikely you woukd have infected her on the hen.

i’d give it until tomorrow then tell her as then you’ll know whether you’re going to have 48 clear hours

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