Wedding gift help!

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I'm going to a wedding this weekend. It's the first one I've attended as an adult so looking for some advice on what is acceptable as a wedding gift these days?

I was thinking of spending £50-100, whilst my partner says our presence is enough 😳 it's the first time I'm meeting some of his family so I'm a bit nervous about the whole thing. I also think turning up empty-handed is a bit rude.

For context:

DP and I are in our late 20s. We live in the same city that we graduated from university so our families live some distance away. For this wedding, it is a 300-mile round trip for us, and a hotel for the night. With petrol costs, hotel, outfits and my partner having to take a day of annual leave for it (luckily it's HT and I'm a teacher, so it didn't affect me) I think DP feels that we've spend enough money on the day (about £250 so far). If I'm being honest, we'd struggle to afford much more than £20 this close to the day.

The Groom is a cousin of DP. They were fairly close growing up, but have drifted as they've gotten older. I haven't met the bride in person, although DP has.

Thanks in advance for your replies. I'm sure I'm probably overthinking this! 😳

£50 between you would be absolutely enough at your stage of life.

Whereas I do think it would be rude to not give anything, you do have to think of your budget.
Which includes not falling for the marketing of "having to buy new outfits".

Most people, when they send out wedding invitations, send out gift instructions/requests with the invitation. Sometimes this an online register with a retailer, sometimes a gift list, sometimes a request for money. Guests sort this out before the wedding. Hardly anyone turns up to a wedding with a physical gift these days.

Regardless, this is not your relative, not your responsibility. Don’t fall into the trap of taking on wife-work.