Looking for info on booking registrar

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Courtney88765 · 19/05/2025 08:06

hey! Quick question on the process, I went to book the registrar me and my partner have been together for a while, he lived with me but now doesn’t as we did separate but now we live in different homes, I’m on UC but I’m wondering as we want to get married before he moves back in, if I book the registrar does my local council like the highland council housing services find out? As I don’t want to book it and then they assume he’s back living here which he is not. I’m looking for some advice thanks!

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Mindymomo · 19/05/2025 08:12

Why would you not want to live together if you are getting married. Register Offices are government run, so presumably both your addresses/details go on record. If he does move in with you then you inform UC of this.

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Courtney88765 · 19/05/2025 09:33

He works away, technically he doesn’t live with me as he works during the week and is only over 2 nights (the weekend) he’s not on my tenancy I was just wondering as we are going to book the registrar at some point and I was wondering how to go about it due to him not living actually in the tenancy as he’s never here unless it’s a weekend, he used to be on my uc claim but not now. I will update it.

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PansyPottering · 19/05/2025 09:41

You don’t have to live together to get married or book a registrar. You book it for the area you want the wedding to be in. If you live in Scotland and he lives in wales and you want to get married in Manchester you book it in Manchester.

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Courtney88765 · 19/05/2025 10:14

we both live in Scotland, and would want it to be in our home town but because we don’t live together I thought maybe the highland council would have a problem with it due to him not living with me. Thanks that helped a lot x

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PansyPottering · 19/05/2025 12:24

In England you have to be getting married of your own free will and you have to have met.

That’s so that arranged marriages can still happen as long as the people getting married want to get married. My friend had an arranged marriage and they had never been alone in the same room never mind lived together! Their grandparents arranged. She agreed to marry him and they have been married happily over twenty years so it all worked out in the end!

SummerIce · 19/05/2025 12:26

Does he actually live with you OP, but you’re using him working away during the week to claim he doesn’t? I’m not sure why you would be so concerned otherwise.

SapphireOpal · 19/05/2025 12:27

So is his permanent address with you and he works away during the week?

Or does he have an address elsewhere to use for the registrar?

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