Pregnancy planning as a bridesmaid

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I've been asked to be a bridesmaid in Feb 27 but I'm also considering another (final) child. Currently 36 so time is ticking. Have some health issues which are improving so realistically I'm looking at trying next year. Do I hold off? Hen do is end of 26 so not sure if I should just wait until after this. Would be 4 months gone at the wedding if I fall pregnant right away. Every other pregnancy was 1st try hence the planning What would you do?

Are you seriously putting your life on hold for someone else's wedding.
what I would do is tell bride that I am planning a pregnancy and therefore can’t guarantee that I will be able to be bridesmaid

You want to plan your family around someone else's wedding? That's madness.

Tell the bride that you may be a few months pregnant and depending on how you feel may not be able to participate. If I was the bride I’d be fine, only issue would be whatever dress you might wear but I’d probably pick something that would be forgiving of a tummy.
i didn’t have bridesmaids (I was 40 and the idea seemed ridiculous) and have never been one myself so unsure what role you do. My DD was one but at 8 years old all she had to do was look cute in the photos!

If the wedding is in 27, hen late 26 what’s wrong with now? I certainly wouldn’t plan pregnancy around a wedding and certainly not a hen do

I was 7 months pregnant bridesmaid in one wedding. It shouldn’t matter.

I'm planning it round a wedding because I want to. It's my sister's wedding & it's important to me. I've had miscarriages & been considerably unwell for a couple of years. Future Pregnancy is dependant on health which is why it isn't now. Pregnancy may or may/not exacerbate my health condition so I was planning around the wedding because I don't want to risk missing it. Appreciate the comments

At 36 I would just be trying now and whatever will be will be. I’d probably skip “trying” in April & May 2026 so that hopefully you’re not due within a month of the wedding and apart from that you should be fairly safe. I have been bridesmaid pregnant twice. One wedding I actually was going to be due 3 days before the wedding which was not ideal. But lost baby. Then found out I was pregnant the morning of her wedding. Other wedding I was around 8-10 weeks. Told bride so she didn’t think I was being boring but I pretended to drink and was on the dance floor till the end.
wedding/ hen do is a few days this is your life.
im also getting married this year and I wouldn’t be phased if any of my bridesmaids were pregnant.

Try for the baby. If the bride is a good a friend as she must be for you to consider this then I'm sure she'll understand if you are pregnant/have small baby.

If you have bridesmaids in their 30s you have to accept they might be planning a family! My two best friends will both be very pregnant for my wedding. I couldn’t be happier for either of them!

The hen might look a little different but I’m sure you can still have fun if you aren’t drinking.

Up to you but personally I wouldn’t put your family on hold as you might regret it.

Thanks for the sound advice. I'm working on weight loss which I think will help speed up my health issues improving so that's the first step then thinking of going for it! My sister is amazing & honestly wouldn't mind at all if I was pregnant or had a baby. I have been quite unwell for the last few years & it affected my own hen & wedding drastically so I'm wanting to make the most of enjoying her wedding in better health. I didn't expect any sort of recovery & health was declining (the reason I hadn't tried for said baby) so it's been a blessing that I've had improvements 🥰