Wedding speeches- when ?

[Lovetocook49]

I went to a wedding yesterday and whilst chatting to the videographer he said most weddings don’t do speeches at the end of the wedding breakfast now.

Just curious when they are ? Yesterday we were all so hungry, wedding at 1.30pm , ate at 4.30pm , I would not have wanted to have listened to a speech until full and settled.

Would depend on the timings I guess 🤷‍♀️

I would always go for after the meal.
At that point, people have had a couple of drinks, have relaxed and are in a good mood, not hungry, and are very receptive to the speeches.

Our speeches were before the meal! Reason being that my father, brother( he wanted to speak on behalf of him and my sister 🥺) husband and best man felt that they could sit and relax and not have their food go down in lumps with nerves! It was lovely actually!

Yes it’s the norm to do them beforehand now so everyone can relax and enjoy their meal. I did attend one recently where they had them after the main course which worked well. And gave you time to digest your main course a bit before eating dessert.

We split ours
Our speeches after, and parents speeches etc before. We didn't want people waiting too long for the food but also had been to a wedding where we felt completely done with sitting after a 2 hour meal then additional speeches. We found the kids had it if the speeches are too long post meal

We did ours before the wedding breakfast so that everyone could relax during the meal.

It was lovely actually

Ha! Bet that’s not what the guests thought.

Wedding 4pm. Photos and drinks and nibbles until 6pm. Then speeches, then the meal.

Went to a wonderful wedding recently, not in the UK. All speeches were pretty short. After the first course were speeches from bride’s father, groom’s mother, best man and bridesmaid. Then main course followed by speech from couple. Felt lovely and relaxed.

Also split. My parents before the meal. Friends between between starter and main. My new DH and I between main and desert. Way better than listening to lots of speeches all in a row, and filled the time while plates were being clearers and served.

Before food is torture for your guests and only pleasant for the person doing the speech so they can relax.

We had our speeches before our meal so that my dh could enjoy his meal as he was so nervous about the speech (we got married 25 years ago)

most weddings we have been at recently have done the same, get the speeches out the way and enjoy the meal.