Trying to coordinate adult and children clothing in the wedding party - it's so difficult!

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I'm getting married this summer. We chose a dusky pink for the colour to run through the wedding. Bridesmaids dresses are dusky pink. My partner has chosen beige suits with pink ties and pocket squares (not an exact match but as close as we could get). The problem is our children. He has an 8 year old girl, and I have 12 and 10 year old boys. My stepdaughter is being a flower girl, so walking down the aisle. I assumed we'd be able to get a nice dusky pink children's dress (she wants a big puffy dress with a bow!). Ordered what appeared to be the correct colour. Nope. It was so wrong that it made the bridesmaid dresses look brown! A real awful clash. I can't find anything that fits the bill at all. The next alternative is to get an ivory dress (assume ivory not white as my dress is ivory with a pink blush undertone) with maybe a pink sash (seen on JJs house website, so have ordered swatches to match the colour). So she would maybe not match but at least be complimentary. For my boys we'd hoped to match the men's suits - again, just not possible! I've ordered suits and they are all wrong in the shades! It doesn't help that my partner has ordered his hired suits from a store that is over an hour away, so not just easy to keep ordering and taking them to check the colour!
So I decided that we'd have to hire the boys suits too. It was more than I was happy with (an extra £200!) but for less stress I thought fine, and made peace with it. I've just contacted the shop, to be told that no, the suits to hire for children are £170 EACH! WTF!
So now I'm left with the only other idea I can come up with, and that is to go with a green suit and white dress with green tulle layer and bow that I've seen in Monsoon. So we match the children as closely as possible, but not to the bridesmaids or groomsman party? Even though my stepdaughter will be walking down the aisle with a bridesmaid next to her (she won't go alone).
Is this always so difficult? Does it matter? I don't even know anymore. I just know that there are 3 young children that I want to make happy, and make sure they feel good on the day - and part of the celebrations!
Help me before I lose my mind (I've been totally chill until this, so I'm rather cross at myself!).

No it does not matter

I might have missed this as it was a long OP!

Could you add a 2nd, complimentary colour which can be picked up in several elements. So possibly the bridesmade dress colour matches all the tie colours, or have that colour in the flowers/head wear? Or an ivory BM dress and just a dusty pink sash, rather than also trying to get a pink underskirt?

If you can't match exactly, i think the best option would be a different complimentary colour. The boys don't really need suits, trousers and a shirt should be sufficient for them. Linen trousers might work with the men's suits? I don't know what the "vibe" of your wedding is, but would they wear a patterned shirt.....I'm thinking maybe pink & green small flowery print that would tie in the green? Although that might not be an easier to find!!

I don’t think they have to match perfectly, just not clash with the colour scheme 🤷🏻‍♀️

I had my DSis (only adult bridesmaid) in one colour from my bouquet and my daughters in another. So they weren’t the same but fit the general colour scheme.
Same with my DH, DS, best man and my dad - they all had roughly the same charcoal grey suits but they weren’t all identical.

This is a compilation of my dress, DP suit, bridesmaid dress, then what we are thinking of for the children. Of course until we see the dress and boys suits with each other, we don't know if the greens will compliment. They look like they match, but we've fallen for that trick before!

Those in combination look fine if the colours are as pictured!

They look ok in theory! The colours are lovely, very fresh and spring like!

Thye don't need to match - the same pallette is enough, surely?

If you NEED a match, you'll have to pay the £££.

I think what you've posted looks brilliant, and actually much nicer than pink and beige for the children - it adds some interest and makes a better overall look imo. The greens don't need to be exactly the same, as long as they do go well together. Otherwise a very soft yellow would look good for the flower girl dress since it's a summer wedding; a soft blue or dusky gold/champagne would also work. As pp said, as long as all shades are from the same palette it will work.

My friend ordered an extra adult dress and used the fabric for sashes for the little girls' ivory dresses, might that work?

For the boys, you either need to pay to hire the matching ones or go for something contrasting.

I think these look great together.

I think they look great together but will your boys be happy in those outfits? They look lovely but mine would have refused from about 8. What about chinos for the boys with shirt and waistcoat if they want.

They all look fine. You don't need to be all matching or to stress about it.

I think what you have pictured above is lovely!

They will look fine together!!
That suit for little boys might be the cutest thing I’ve ever seen 🥹🥹🥹
If I’m being totally honest, I’m not a fan of the little girl’s dress but it’s not my wedding!! The adult bridesmaid dress is stunning though 😍

What you’ve shown in the photos looks fine. It’s nice to have a bit of range with the styles and colours (as long as it isn’t a hot pink and baby pink and grass green and sage green kind of difference!)

Try not to let these details stress you out. On the day you’re not going to care and it’s just wasted energy.

They all look really good together.