Is there a polite way to uninvite someone from a wedding ?

[Crazyworldmum]

We are getting married in August , been planning it since last march and invites where send at that time as it’s a wedding abroad ( our home country but lots of family and friends live like us in the uk ) .
Our wedding has around 90 people all very important to us , we didn’t invite even half of our family as we wanted to be sure all those in it are really people that we love and respect .
We have a a couple friend and their oldest kids as guests , but in the last few months our relationship deteriorated a lot.
There has been no huge fallout but some of their actions where bad and no longer trust them or feel in any way close to them , in fact I have some aversion to even being with them and it’s weird to even being with them .
Is there a way of uninviting people that doesn’t make me look awful .

'Hi, We all know that things haven't been good between us recently and in the circumstances we don't think it's appropriate for you to come to our wedding, it is for close friends and family only. I'm sure you will understand.'

Dress it up a bit more if you want to but emphasis it's only close friends that are invited.

They might not want to come and be looking for a way out. You can phrase it as - “Working on final numbers and seating planning, just checking you’re still definitely coming, and bringing children?” This gives them an opportunity to come up with an excuse if they want to and then you’re both happy

No, I don't think there is.

@Crazyworldmum so basically they are no longer your friends in which case if they’ve been at fault towards changing that, then YANBU and just uninvite them. It’s possible they wouldn’t want to come anyway with such bad blood between you now. However it’s your day and shouldn’t have to have added anxiety of wondering if they’re there or not. So I’d just uninvite them sooner rather than later as YABU if you leave it till much later. You could just apologise and say given the differences between you all, you don’t feel comfortable having them at the weeding and just say you hope they understand retract the invite and then apologise for any inconvenience you may have caused.

Are you all part of a wider friendship group - will other guests ask why they’re not there (creating more drama/giving the situation more attention)?

If so, I’d just suck it up and have them there. I wouldn’t want a bigger black cloud over the day with people asking. I get why you don’t want them there, but I think it would ultimately annoy you more to have that drama.

Update

so I did it . We meet at a friends party a couple of weeks ago , almost no words exchanged apart from pleasantries . I knew then and there I couldn’t have them at my wedding , any friendship was long gone and it’s been replaced with a mix of icky feeling and resentment.
So a very nice polite message was send today , she replied with a polite message almost like expected but at the same time making up like nothing is wrong . She accepted it and I left it at that .
Future hubby got home tonight to a few messages from her husband asking if me and her had a fallout… absolute hypocrisy from his part as he know very well they blanked us for now 2 months when previously he would message daily .
This is part of the reason I pulled away from them they seem to enjoy playing games , often if I said no to some event or going to theirs they would try my partner to see if he budged , off course we discuss everything with each other before taking decisions so that always backfired . It still annoyed me they tried that move again today , but I’m happy they are not coming and this behaviour is proving my decision is correct .

And thank you all for the suggestions , it helped

Well done ! The friendship is over of course but sounds no great loss