Is it impossible not become obsessed

[3rdtimeidiot]

I always thought I’d be a chill bride, that I would slap dash a wedding together and wouldn’t really care about the fine details, but now I’m actually planning my fairly small wedding it’s consuming my thoughts everyday, I really want it to be perfect and I never thought that I’d feel that way

It's not in your control for a wedding to be perfect (whatever that means). On the day, anything can go wrong. My DH became very unwell during the reception and went to bed at 7pm! In sickness and in health was ticked off rather quickly. In the following 28 years he hasn't been ill since!

I think it’s just accepting and reminding yourself that - it won’t be perfect. There’s only so much you can control so while it will be an amazing day things may not go to plan and that is perfectly it OK! Also keep reminding yourself that while it’s an important day for you, for others it is lovely but unimportant. People will only remember the food and the waiting around. All the tiny little things mean nothing.

It is possible. I didn't give much thought to details at all.

Booked a church and reception venue
Picked some food
Picked some flowers - took about 10 minutes. Florist had insisted on an hour long appointment. No idea why.
Booked a car
Bought a dress
DH ordered suits
Invited people
Decided on hymns and reading

It's a reasonable chunk of admin but once we'd sorted the big bits, including ensuring everyone would be able to easily get between the church and the venue then the rest of it was just unimportant really.

The organiser at the venue expected me to have an opinion on the colour of menu cards and candles. I chose to continue not being the least interested in that sort of detail.

I was pretty chill planning a big (120) black tie bash until the last week when it got a bit much. It wasn’t perfect, but I’m sure I was the only one who noticed the issues! I was let down by the venue on the main things (they lost the vegetarian seating plan, no mirror in the room I changed in, they forgot to light some candles at the venue..). But these were minor compared to the rest. You have to let it go a bit otherwise you will be tense all day.