Wedding planning is causing me anxiety and fiancé isn’t taking it serious

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Wedding is booked for July 24th and it’s already causing me anxiety and I got into an argument with my fiancé last night. Long story short, we’re having a small wedding and he’s in the army and I know his job is stressful enough so I honestly try my best not to start anything. But, I’ve asked him a month ago to book 7 days off and my fiancé said he’ll do it so I left it at that. Fast forward to last night when I asked him if he sorted out booking his leave he said no, I’ll get around to it. I got annoyed but didn’t show it so told him on the phone that I’ll talk to him tomorrow because I was too tired, he obviously knew I was lying so he asked if I was okay and I told him that I’m okay just tired. I honestly can’t be bothered to talk to him about booking his leave because it’s a small wedding and only 20 people will be there as we’re having it in my parents back garden it’s big enough for everyone who’s coming. I’m honestly thinking of calling the whole thing off because he’s not taking it seriously as I am with the planning and stuff and I’m super annoyed. I got a message from him today saying it’s been booked waiting for approval. I’m annoyed because we’ve been planning since September and due to his work he may not even get those days off!! I can’t even talk to him because I know myself and I’ll go off and will get into a big fight

Wedding planning can be stressful, but it's important to communicate clearly with your partner. Don't just cover things up or say it's fine if things aren't fine.

You might benefit from a day together where you calmly list out everything you need to do in a notebook and then put names against each action. It'll help you both to see how much organisation is required and how you can split the load.

If you "can't be bothered to talk to him" or feel you'll "go off and will get into a big fight" then that sounds like a lack of communication and not a good basis for a marriage.

What are you looking for here? Affirmation? Advice on whether to go ahead? Incidents like this, with you driving the agenda and him dragging his heels, are likely to dominate your daily life if you marry this man. When you say 'I asked him a month ago', it sounds as if you are talking to a child or an employee. Sorry, OP.

I agree with this I'm afraid!

He is dragging his feet a bit and being very complacent with your feelings

Take rhis as a true teat if character. You both reached an obstacle now is the time to look critically at who you are marrying and if it should go ahead. Words and actions on major matters should align.
This coukd be indicitive of what is too come.

Just respond, Thanks Lovey! and go on with organising the day to be special. To not respond keeps the silly tiff on going.

Looks like you will be deciding things that suit your asthetics and that your fiance is not that fussy.

Why does he need 7 days off? Is it for the wedding day itself and honeymoon, or all just for planning?

He's put his request in now and assume it'll be approved ,it's still 5 months away. Ideally he'd have done it sooner but think this is just part of being a couple and having a life together. You are individuals and you've got to cope with life's ups and downs and annoyances in your relationship and competing demands and priorities and also have to be able to talk about it too.