TTC before wedding

[Jannah26]

Me and my fiance have been trying for a baby for around 7 months now with no luck (I did miscarry during this time) we get married in the spring next year and have stopped trying, however I’m just so torn on what do to, I want to try one more time but also if we are successful this month I don’t know if having a 5 month old at our wedding would be too much!!
I’m just overthinking everything and thinking of all the possible negative outcomes (if I’m breast feeding, will I be happy with my body, will I have a bad recovery.. the list goes on) and then there’s a part of me that thinks it’s only 1 day and a child is for life, how nice it would be to have our child at our wedding.
I’m so torn I don’t know what to do, has anyone gotten married with a baby before?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Bluntly, getting older won't make having a baby easier. If it's important to you, don't stop trying for the sake of one day - especially when that day is about the love of family! I got married at the weekend with a one year old and a three year old. It was a lovely lovely day.

We have a 7, nearly 8, month old and are getting married this year. Honestly, life is too short, just go for it. Your potential baby will have lots of people there who love her and will care for her. If anything they're probably easier than a toddler running wild as they will be entertained very easily! Also, your guests will love having baby cuddles

Sorry, I've said her because we have a little girl.

I was worried about having our daughter at our wedding but like you said, the thought of having her there is so exciting and babies at that age will just go with the flow.

I wouldn't stop TTC but keep going and face whatever the situation is next year.

I'd probably try one more time and if it happens make plans for getting married with a 5 month old.

If that doesn't work start trying again in 6 months so you'll be pregnant when you get married

Are you older than thirty?

Yes, we both are.

I know this is why I’m so torn, unfortunately we didn’t conceive and tried once more last month with no luck, I know we need to stop now as the wedding is getting closer but I’m still so torn weather to try just 1 more time. It’s so hard

I would keep on trying for a baby. You can always work around the wedding situation, but unfortunately the more you postpone, the higher the risk of not having a baby at all

I took my little one overseas (long-haul) to see family for 2 months when he was from 4-6month. Once there he was fine being passed around to all of the new people and meeting new faces. I travelled solo to and from the UK with him. I honestly think it was the easiest age to do something that huge with him. At 4 months, on the way out, he was happy to sit with other people when I needed a loo break, and at 6 months on the way back he was still small enough to nap on me, but just starting to get bigger and fussier with who he was with.
I know that you are talking about a wedding, not travel, but I'm telling you my experience just because I think that if you have to be handing a baby around at a wedding, then 5 moths old is the perfect age and I wouldn't let it put you off from your TTC journey. I'd also had 5 months of motherhood and was so much more confident in what my baby wanted and needed. So if you are lucky enough to conceive, I just want to tell you that you will rock your wedding day and motherhood no matter babies age - good luck! Xxx

I would keep trying. Why not!? You can still have an amazing wedding pregnant / with your baby present. I think you'll regret not trying if you struggle after the wedding more than you would regret having a baby present. Go for it.