My fiancés sister and mother are very controlling. They often tell me how my fiancé should be spending his time, most recently we went out of town to view our wedding venue and when texting her about it she was telling me how my fiancé “should be spending the weekend with his mum as it’s her bday” wasn’t a special bday or anything and we took her out for a meal before hand….
it’s a constant power battle and she’s very passive aggressive towards me. The mum is very possessive over my fiancé and often relies on him for emotional support.
we have just booked our wedding and we haven’t told them a date yet. My fiancé told his younger sister who lives in a different country and I’m pretty sure she’s told the mum and other sister. My question is, do I play the game and make communication go through me, eg be the one to text and say we booked our wedding it’s the xxx xx 2026 or do I just let my fiancé handle it. Honestly, I kind of want to annoy them and in similar situations my brothers fiancé was the one to tell me about the date etc etc. or, if I don’t bother telling them and they just hear about it I wonder if that will make them get the picture that I don’t want them involved.