I've been invited to a wedding abroad, I've thought it through and I think I would like to go.
It's in a country I've never visited so the plan is to make a holiday out of it. It's a Greek island.
I have been sent a link to the hotel and it's a luxury resort. The cost PP is £2500 for 2 weeks AI. After discussion with DH we decided as nice as the place is we would rather save our money and stay elsewhere so we can go out exploring etc for the rest of the holiday. Possibly staying in the hotel the night of the wedding depending on where we decide to stay on the island and also if we can book a room for one night. We both get bored sitting at a pool all day too and like to try different restaurants etc when we go away.
I mentioned this to the bride and said we would love to be at the wedding but will pass on the hotel. This led to her saying well if you're not staying in the hotel then it's £150pp for a day pass so that will have to be paid (this allows access to all the facilities -which won't be getting used, access to all restaurants/bars and AI drinks).
Now I do understand this but surely the b&g should be paying this for guests that decide to stay elsewhere especially if people have made the effort to travel to a destination wedding? Her argument is if it was a UK wedding then we would have to pay for drinks/cabs/possibly hotel rooms etc and asking guests to pay the day passes is just the same. My argument is £300 per couple is a lot of money to be expected to pay to attend the wedding. Also in the UK people can decide on a budget and not have it dictated to them. I have heard through the grapevine too that there are limited day passes.
AIBU to think the b&g should be paying this for guests who decide to stay elsewhere ? Is this even a thing? DH wonders if they are trying to get people to stay so they get a discount.