Getting sick of weddings…

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FedUpOfItAll0 · 27/08/2024 02:13

DP and I have received a wedding invitation from his longtime friend last week. It’s the fourth wedding invitation this year for us (attended 2 already, one is in September and the latest one that we received the invite for is in November).

If I’m being honest, I’ve had enough of weddings for the forseeable and I’m thinking of declining the invitation. DP wasn’t happy with that suggestion, so I suggested he go alone, which also didn’t go down well.

Like many others, I’m struggling financially at the moment and as it is a midweek wedding, I would have to take a day unpaid to attend (due to no leave left). Not to mention the costs of yet an outfit, gift, travel, sorting out care for our dogs etc etc…

I’m not really looking for any advice as such, just a place to vent as DP is being a bit difficult over it😓

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elliejjtiny · 27/08/2024 02:20

If this is your 4th wedding invitation this year, surely you already have a suitable outfit? I find you often go through a phase of weddings, ds1 went to about 5 in the first 18 months of his life. But then there is a gap and there are no more weddings for ages. Last wedding I went to was 2019 and the previous wedding had been a long time before that. I wouldn't go to a wedding that leaves you massively out of pocket though.

MissPeaches · 27/08/2024 02:22

A midweek wedding? No chance would I do that.

Edingril · 27/08/2024 02:22

No I would not go to midweek wedding unless they are close relatives it is unfair if people have to use leave for wedding

But no idea why you need a new outfit

toastofthetown · 27/08/2024 02:27

If it were a weekend wedding I’d suggest trying to attend the wedding of a longtime friend: wearing something you already have or buying from Vinted, reducing spend for the gift. The fact you’re fed up with weddings isn’t their fault (and I used to work in the wedding industry, and didn’t stop attending family/friends’ weddings despite total wedding fatigue). But a midweek wedding where you have no leave left is a no. The couple will know that having a midweek wedding could reduce the number of people wanting to attend. They’ll have checked the dates with key guests and everyone else is a nice to have.

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FedUpOfItAll0 · 27/08/2024 02:27

Edingril · 27/08/2024 02:22

No I would not go to midweek wedding unless they are close relatives it is unfair if people have to use leave for wedding

But no idea why you need a new outfit

I agree with you about midweek weddings, I had to use a days leave to attend one that was on a Friday earlier this year.

I would re-wear my dress, but due to it being in November, I would have to get some more suitable shoes and a jacket/coat etc

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Aquamarine1029 · 27/08/2024 02:27

Tell your partner you'll be happy to go if, and only if, he pays for every single expense incurred and he reimburses you for the lost wages.

I bet his difficultness will magically disappear.

Rocknrollstar · 27/08/2024 06:32

We had four weddings one year and I just bought one outfit and re-wore it, even though I was seeing the same people at three of them.

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