I am feeling guilty and need advice!
My partner's friend’s girlfriend has asked me to be a bridesmaid for her wedding a year ago, which completely took me by surprise as we had never hung out just the 2 of us, and I personally never thought we clicked too well. I am an awkward person and said yes as I didn’t want to be mean. I feel I was asked as my partner is a groomsman for them.
Since then I got engaged, and am due to get married months after this couple, and I always planned who my bridesmaids would be - and that doesn’t include this girl, as I just feel we aren’t close! This is making me feel awful as my partner has reciprocated the groomsman, so that would leave her being the odd one out.
To make things worse we are all in the same friendship circle, so we have other mutual friends who keep asking about our weddings, and who are bridesmaids are.. and I can’t bring myself to share that she won’t be apart of it. I have my own friends away from this social circle. This whole situation is driving me crazy and I change my mind everyday of what I should do. I do feel irritated that she’s created this situation for me!
I don’t know what to do, do I give in and just reciprocate in order to have an easy life and to receive no awkward judgement from her, her partner and my friendship circle?
Or do I stick to my guns and have who I want as a bridesmaid, and potentially be seen as a ‘b’ by everyone who comes to our weddings?
My partner said the friend group could view me as ‘mean’ for not reciprocating, and this plays on my mind!