Bridesmaids missing letters

[Shopgirl2]

I've been putting together a letters to the Bride book for my friend. She's getting married at the weekend. There are 9 of us bridesmaids. We've each got an envelope into which we've written a letter or poem for the bride to read on her wedding morning. Apart from two bridesmaids have not given me a letter to put in, so their envelopes are empty. I keep chasing them up, but they're not replying to me.
I'm not sure what to do next. I don't know if the bride is going to not mind that there are two empty envelopes or be a little upset (the bride gave me a very unsubtle hint that she wanted this book). Should I pop something in the envelopes, e.g. a generic poem off the internet, or leave them empty?

I'd send 1 final message saying something like... Hi bridesmaids, as I haven't had contributions yet I have printed off poem x which will go in Janes envelope and poem y which will go in Sarah's envelope. Any issues with this please let me know by 10am Friday. Shopgirl2

Print a couple of poems or photos . Writing letters like that is not for everyone .

A photo of bride & bridesmaid together might work if you can find one on their Facebook?

I’d ask for a letter/poem/photo one more time then leave them empty. The bride can pick it up with the bridesmaids if she wants.

Christ that whole thing sounds a lot of work and very Bridezilla!!

Imagine asking your mates to write you soppy letters and poems and turn them into a book 🤣 fuck me

Maybe ask them to pick their favourite photo of them and the bride to put in the envelope instead. A poem or letter is cheesy crap that many people wouldn't want to do.

The whole thing sounds excruciating 😣

Why include them at all, surely it is better to just give her ones that have been done, rather than include empty envelopes of ones that haven't?

If they can't be arsed it's not on you.

God I'm glad I'm not her bridesmaid, I love my friends to death but Wordsworth I am not. I'd find writing a letter or poem to my friend like that utterly excruciating I'm afraid. She'd probably end up with a rude Limerick and a picture of us upside down drunk on holiday.

First post basically nails the best way to deal with it though, I think.

Boak.

Maybe they can't face being forced to write some fake soppy shit. Leave them to it.

I really hope you are all very young because this is ridiculous

9 bridesmaids!?

A letters to the bride book!?

Just... ugh

They haven't done it because they don't want to because it's absolutely a cringefest if you don't do performative emotions

OMG is this another Bridezilla thing along with destination weddings and OTT hen dos that cost an arm and a leg?

Well this is a new one on me, I expect they haven't written letters because they are embarrassed by the whole thing and they don't want their personal thoughts to the bride read out on her wedding morning – as if she's even going to have time to read nine heartfelt letters from her bridesmaids on the day!

The level of batshit crazy wedding stuff never ceases to amaze me 🙄

Me too. And you said 9 bridesmaids. 9 !

Yes, this.

If you want to write a soppy letter to the bride, then do so. But you can't make other people do so.

Just give the bride the letters you have - don't need to make an obvious and apparent 'space' where people have chosen not to. Just make something with what you've got.

Print out the message threads of all your follow ups with them asking them for their contributions and put that in the envelopes instead.

What a load of self-indulgent crap from the bride. I wouldn’t feel comfortable contributing to this.

I’m cringing just reading this tbh.

9 bridesmaids and she wants them all to give her a meaningful message to read on the morning of her wedding and you have to compile a bride book! I hope she is a really good friend in some other way.

I once heard that the secret to a long marriage is not wanting to get divorced at the same time. Maybe you can put that in an envelope along with a reminder steak & blowjob night is a Thursday.

No that would be horrid to see and so passive aggressive

Just leave blank and they can write one later if they want - the bride will probably laugh as I'm sure these ladies are always a bit disorganized