No photos on social media

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Hi all

I'm looking for some honest opinions please.

My partner and myself are getting married soon and I have highlighted to him that I feel very uncomfortable people taking photos and putting them on social media. My partner doesn't agree and thinks that it's out of order to ask people not to take photos and post them on social media. I don't want certain people seeing the photos.

Opinions please

Thanks

I’ve been to a wedding where we were told before the service started that we weren’t allowed to take any pictures at all, which I thought was weird and controlling.

Asking guests not to post photos of the bride/groom is absolutely fair play though, and I think most people wouldn’t dream of uploading any pictures until the the happy couple had made their own announcements on SM.

It's really shitty to publish pictures of people who have expressly said they do not want them to be posted, whether the event is public or not.

No pix during the ceremony is a very normal stipulation, and no publication of pix without the consent of those in them should be the considerate norm. Yes, we all know it's not illegal, but that's not the point, is it?

It’s your wedding and fair enough if you don’t want people to post pictures on social media. I think if you ask people politely they should respect your wishes. You’ll need to sort it out with your fiancé though.

However, YABU to say “my partner and myself.”

Everyone knows that most brides (grooms less so) want to post a nice picture of them in their finery, carefully chosen as "the best" as the main picture that appears of their wedding.

Not have a picture snapped at a bad angle! Unless you are insta perfect in all photos, which most women are not.

I'm getting married next year and my partner and I have had this discussion. We'll be asking our guests not to post any pictures of the wedding or of us until we do but if they want to post a picture/selfie of themselves then that's fine

I think it’s perfectly reasonable to ask people not to post photos of you on SM in any circumstances. The comments saying it’s controlling are really odd. Obviously the guests should be able to post pictures of themselves at the event.

I think it's pretty normal to ask guests not to post until you have.

Do you mean that you don't want your guest to take any photos or you just have an issue with guests taking photos and posting them to their own SM?

I went to a wedding where the couple asked for no photos on social media. To my knowledge nobody had a problem with it and everybody complied.

It's your day, if you don't want it on social media then there's nothing wrong with saying so.

Hi all thanks so much for your responses

@PolaroidPrincess I mean that I don't want people putting photos on their own social media, I don't feel that I could stop people taking photos full stop it's just I don't feel comfortable with people sharing them publicly.

I don't think it's controlling at all, I think it's respectful to not share if people have expressed that they don't want their photos spread all over social media. But that's my opinion and I'm glad I'm not the only one who thinks that!