A Bride with no friends

[GigiRose27]

I’m due to be married in April next year and keep feeling a wave of sadness everytime the word bridesmaid is mentioned! I have no friends to speak of I’ve always been a bit of a loner, I will be 42( I also think I may be too old to have a bridesmaid's?!) Will I look ridiculous next to my husband with his men?! I have my 2 young daughters to be flower girls I would love to have bridesmaids my brother has a girlfriend and my husband has a brother with soon to be wife but I don’t feel close to any of them to ask…. I also have a co worker whom I speak with everyday, Has anyone else experienced this and how do you explain to others without a look of ‘why do you have no friends’ Thanks

Congratulations on your forthcoming wedding! I think having just flower girls is lovely. But if you wanted a couple of bridesmaids why don't you ask the people you mentioned? 42 is definitely not too old!

I think the flower girls is fine but if you want more fine to ask your sils

I would just go with the flower girls. There is no need for bridesmaids. Keep the wedding small and simple, mostly family, would be my suggestion.

Your daughters as flower girls will be fine.

I don’t see why you can’t have bridesmaids! Could you use it as a way to get to know your SILs and coworker better? It could be a fun way to spend some time with them

I didn’t have bridesmaids, not because I didn’t have friends just wanted a simple wedding. DH had his brother as best man but that was the only person he had standing with him. How big a wedding are you having?

Do you not have a mum friends through your DDs?

I think you’d be absolutely fine just having flower girls for your wedding, but it sounds like a bigger problem that you feel you don’t have any friends.

Can you ask your coworker to go for a coffee/see a film/ go for tea and work on building a friendship outside of work too? Also with your SILs can you do the same to make an effort to see them more as friends? It would be lovely for you to have bridesmaids as it sounds like what you want, I’m sure they would be honoured to be asked! And it would be so nice for you to have them there getting ready together on the morning of the wedding.

Also saying don’t feel obliged, although what a lovely way to welcome your future sister in law and your daughters Aunt into the famliy.

I got married this year at 40 and I didn’t have bridesmaids. I don’t have many close friends either, I could have asked a couple of friends but I really didn’t see the point. Unless there are people you really want to share this experience with and want them to play an active part in your wedding, wouldn’t bother. Don’t ask anyone just for the sake of it.

Just have flower girls. No point having a bridesmaid for the sake of it if you don't feel that close to her.

Enjoy your lovely day!

I've been to multiple weddings recently where there is no bms or groomsmen. Just the bride and groom. Maybe that would be easier.

Lovely just having your daughters as flower girls.

Fine to have a bridesmaid if you really wanted one, but totally fine without. I'd just have the daughters if I were you.

I have my DDs and my niece - this was the norm until recently, adult bridesmaids other than family were rare. Please don't worry

Groomsmen is a very modern invention, from America, a way a hiring out more suits!

I’d just have the flower girls, the more simple the better.

I wouldn’t think twice about anyone not having bridesmaids etc. these days, weddings are so different now than how they used to be. My mum had 8 bridesmaids!!! I couldn’t deal with that.

Thank you all so much for your input on my post :-) I have made the decision to stick with my 2 daughters as flower girls. It feels like the right choice. I have also made plans to meet my co worker outside of work to build on that relationship aswell as my future SILs. This post gave me the push I needed to feel good about that aspect of my day. Gi