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Advise needed please I’ve been lucky enough to be invited to an Indian wedding but unsure what to wear

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MummaB1234567 · 22/07/2024 17:28

Hi everyone,
I’ve been invited to one of my dearest friends wedding. They are having a traditional Indian wedding and I’d like to wear traditional clothing.
Ive seen this for sale but is it a bit much ? Should I go for something simpler?
It’s my first one and I don’t want to turn up looking too OTT but also don’t want to look too underdressed and like I haven’t made an effort.
Thank you in advance for your help :-)
ps my friend is the groom and useless with fashion lol

Advise needed please I’ve been lucky enough to be invited to an Indian wedding but unsure what to wear
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MummaB1234567 · 22/07/2024 17:30

This is the detail

Advise needed please I’ve been lucky enough to be invited to an Indian wedding but unsure what to wear
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AmandaHoldensLips · 22/07/2024 17:39

That's lovely! Generally you can dress up to the nines but stay clear of red (the bridal colour).

MummaB1234567 · 22/07/2024 17:45

AmandaHoldensLips · 22/07/2024 17:39

That's lovely! Generally you can dress up to the nines but stay clear of red (the bridal colour).

Thank you it is so beautiful it’s covered in diamanté and mirror work I was just worried it was too much or was a bridal one ?
I really want to be supportive of their culture as it’s beautiful but I don’t want to offend anyone x

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goingdownfighting · 22/07/2024 17:52

It's perfect. If it's a Hindu wedding which I'm assuming that it is.

PoopedAndScooped · 22/07/2024 17:53

Just make sure you dont have to have full arm coverage. And check if you need to have your head covered too

Yuckyyuckyuckity · 22/07/2024 17:54

No such thing as being overdressed for an Indian wedding really! Just avoid red (tradional bridal colour), also white is often seen as a funeral colour. That outfit looks perfect.

MummaB1234567 · 22/07/2024 18:21

goingdownfighting · 22/07/2024 17:52

It's perfect. If it's a Hindu wedding which I'm assuming that it is.

Hi it’s a Sikh wedding

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gentlemum · 22/07/2024 18:25

Having been to a Hindu wedding I'd say that outfit is perfect. Though I haven't been to a Sikh wedding so not sure if the outfits and etiquette are the same. At the Hindu wedding I went to two outfits were expected, one for the ceremony and one for the evening celebration.

Yuckyyuckyuckity · 22/07/2024 18:55

MummaB1234567 · 22/07/2024 18:21

Hi it’s a Sikh wedding

Are you going to the gurdwara bit (the religious ceremony) as well as the reception? If so just be aware that you'll need to sit on the floor (so don't wear anything too tight or uncomfortable) and also to cover your head so you wouldn't be able to wear a sari for example (as no seperate scarf). Your outfit is still good, but I'd just be mindful not to bare any more midriff than what the pic shows as you might get frowned on by some of the elders at the gurdwara! Not an issue at the party though!

Faffandahalf · 22/07/2024 19:01

That is gorgeous and perfect for an Indian wedding. You do get to dress up quite a bit and be a bit blingy!
Get a stack of bangles too!

MummaB1234567 · 22/07/2024 19:10

Yuckyyuckyuckity · 22/07/2024 18:55

Are you going to the gurdwara bit (the religious ceremony) as well as the reception? If so just be aware that you'll need to sit on the floor (so don't wear anything too tight or uncomfortable) and also to cover your head so you wouldn't be able to wear a sari for example (as no seperate scarf). Your outfit is still good, but I'd just be mindful not to bare any more midriff than what the pic shows as you might get frowned on by some of the elders at the gurdwara! Not an issue at the party though!

Hi
we’ve been invited to milni & tea and the wedding ceremony at a conference centre.
I think the reception is for family only

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MummaB1234567 · 22/07/2024 19:12

He did tell me I can wear whatever just not red or white. I’m not sure why I’m stressing so much tbh as he’s so chilled lol

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Simonjt · 22/07/2024 19:25

I’m a Sikh, it’s impossible to over do it, make sure your hair style is head covering friendly.

Sikhs like a good drink, so eat what is on offer to line your stomach.

Us Sikhs can be a bit touchy and full on, so don’r be surprised if you are physically grabbed and dragged on to the dance floor. It also means people will reposition your head covering, touch your dress etc if they’re sat near you in the ceremony. Physical affection is more common in south asia, so that can be a challenge for some.

You may find food before the ceremony, so its usual to eat before hand as a group, often tables but no chairs so it isn’t hard to get people to shift for the ceremony.

Sikh life is child friendly, so don’t be surprised if children are running around during the ceremony.

Men and women sit apart, so if you’re taking a male partner you won’t be sat together during the ceremony.

It’s traditional to give a small amount of money, lots of Sikhs now act out the bride price ‘ceremony‘ so if you see some playful bartering between the dads with the bride in the middle that is likely whats happening. Some people now make the brides dad match the money the guests have given, so in some families it becomes a bit of a joke when a dad tight has a daughter who marries as everyone makes sure they give a bit more money to make him sweat.

Its actually quite common for the bride and groom to now know whats next, so will often have someone whispering in their ear before different parts of the ceremony.

goingdownfighting · 22/07/2024 19:42

You can use the scarf of your outfit to cover your head. Maybe take some large hair grips to secure it while it's on.

Take your cue from the other ladies as to when to cover your head.

Have a great time. I've been to Sikh weddings before - your efforts will be well received, and make sure you go hungry, they are very generous people.

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