Mother of the groom

[PrincessMeridith]

My son is getting married in the next couple of months, fdil is very organised & is taking care of most things…
question is do I have any particular tasks I should be thinking about/doing?
also, the morning of the wedding the grooms men will be here, what breakfast/snack items can I serve? Thanks

are you close to her?

Not particularly

i suspected as such
hence you asking anonymous posters rather than talking to her

Ask her if she wants you to do anything but your "not particularly" sounds like you don't like her very much. MoB doesn't do that much either if the bride is very organised like my Dd was, anyway If your son is leaving from your house make a breakfast for them maybe some fizz to toast him leaving and enjoy the wedding

Or ask your son.

You clearly dislike her. Good luck with that. 😄

😃

What in the op says that she doesn't like the woman?
Other than not being particularly close to her future DIL, when many in laws aren't overly close anyway?

I do t think there is too much for a MIL to do before the wedding generally unless asked. You could ask your ds and see what he says - I assume he is equally involved in wedding plans?

Morning of the wedding - nice breakfast/brunch for ds and his groomsmen, a drink depending on time, photographs, etc

Most parents try and get to know their children's spouses, the op was very dismissive of her future Dil imo

perhaps a conversation with either her or your son, ask then what their expectation is. doesn't bode well that you are not close and picking up a hint of not particularly being happy about this wedding?

i would assume, your duties on the day would be to make sure the groom is suited and booted in the correct attire, that him and his groomsman have all their bits and pieces, button holes, tied on straight.

im afraid that pretty much it as far as weddings go... the mother of the groom is not a very glamourouse or involved role. just be there, be nice and circulate. remember its not your day its their day

I don’t think the MoG has any particular duties to do. For breakfast I would keep it simple, bacon butties or similar, tea, coffee and orange juice

No particular tasks unless asked to do anything. If you're serving breakfast I'd choose something simple like bacon/sausage baps (as long as they aren't already in their suits!). Get some beer in too!

you are asking the wrong people
which indicates “not particularly close” is a euphemism for “we don’t get on at all and she’s keeping me arm’s length so i am planning on doing something off my own back”

You are putting your own spin on that.

When I got married, I was a very organised Bride to be.
I didn't ask my MiL to do anything particularly (nor my Mum).
My MiL and I aren't close, but it doesn't mean I dislike her and it doesn't mean she doesn't like me. It literally means we aren't close. We are just very different people , but have always respected each other's space.
Some PiLs won't be close because they just haven't had the opportunity to get to know the dcs' partners.

I feel I am close to my DiL-to-be, but even so, I don't feel there is any expectation on me to "do" anything for the wedding.
Of course if she asks me, then I will, whatever I can to help.

nah…. i reckon I’m right! 😆

Go out to brunch with the young couple. Ask if there is anything they would like you to do before the day or on the day or afterwards. (Like bringing flowers or cake home).
Ask if the table plan is sorted (so people who have fallen out recently aren't put together and chatty people can keep conversations going on tables with quiet people).
Take the mother of the bride too if that's convenient. Don't offer to do anything too personal like going to get nails done together.
You are going to be part of each others lives so you need to be interested and available as opposed to overbearing.

ask her....