When my partner and I got engaged, my mum was over the moon and seemed really excited. Shortly after, her and my dad gave us a generous contribution towards the wedding (covering about 30% of the cost of the wedding in total) transferred the money and said we could do what we liked with it. GREAT!
I would say I am quite close with my mum and see her maybe every 1-2 weeks.
However, as I’ve started planning the day she has seemed more and more disinterested. Everytime I bring it up or update her on the planning, she gives a vacant nod and changes the subject.
I have asked her to help / be involved with a few things on the day but she has either refused or just seemed a bit put out, including seeming annoyed that I was expecting her to be there on the morning of the wedding and travel to the ceremony with the bridal party. (Transportation all provided!)
I also ended up buying my wedding dress online, as I felt awkward that she didn’t seem interested in coming dress shopping with me. When it arrived, I took it round to her house and asked if she could keep it. She agreed but didn’t ask to look at it or show any interest in seeing me in it.
AIBU to expect a bit more excitement and involvement from her? Interested to hear how other mother of the brides have been involved.