Its complicated... DH's DSS (his ex wifes daughter) is getting married very soon, DSS calls DH Dad and took DH's name etc. When DH and his EX split 21 years ago, DSS remained a big part of the family and always will be.
When DH and his ex initally got together, biological dad was alledged to have been violent and made threats to assault DH.
Fast forward a bit, when me and DH met he has been divorced from his ex for 10 years, but it was very clear she still had feelings, so i offered to walk away and let them see if they could work it out but he declined.
His ex then sent him a message saying she couldnt bear to see him so happy and that she was going to remove him/block him on all social media and at every family get together she threw icy stares at me and was very rude to DH.
A few years ago, DSS decided to rebuild a relationship with her biological dad which is of course fantastic. its not been easy but everyone appears happy ish. DH still holds a grudge against the biologival dad, still gets a frosty reception from his ex wife and I'm stuck in the middle.
Well, DSS has asked DH to do a father of the bride speech. He's not giving her away as she says the only person that has been there for her is her mum.
How do i get through this wedding? I am invited, I can't not go, if shes my DH's 'daughter' then shes mine also.
I just need some advice on how to play this, bearing in mind ex wife will be frosty and throwing daggers at me and biological dad will be throwing frosty daggers at DH.