So at first, my fiances best man (in a sports team) could only attend our wedding if it was in March - so my fiancé understandably wanted him there so gave me the direction it would need to be in the time his best man could come. That went out the window as I think he came around more to my thinking that it isn't fair if my entire wedding is set around a date suitable for his friend. Apparently this friend can only leave the state he is in if its a funeral of an immediate family member? (apparently he doesn't have 1 day a week free? odd?)
Now (which I understand) his brother is being deployed for a year in May so the wedding needs to be apparently before May (because understandably he wants his brother there) - I just feel a little annoyed that on top of the wedding stress I now need to find a warmish part of the world in April and the date is still dictated to me by other people. The place we were looking at said we can't use the outdoor space as its going to be too cold at that point of the year.
am i being unreasonable? My cousin is my maid of honour but said don't work around her university just pick a date for me and if she can be there she will.