How much to Gift as a groomsman (as a couple)

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Title says it all really. How much money should you gift at a wedding as a couple, if I'm a groomsman. My initial thoughts was £200 for us as a couple but my parent said too much.

For some background & other costs if anybody needs extra context:
My Friend (30) is getting married this week, I'm a groomsman. He's been my best mate since around 6 years old.

Had 2 stag dos, first was UK, drinks at a pub standard night out & main Stag do was 3 days abroad so spent around £700, My Suits been paid for (so no outlay for the actual wedding)

Hotel night of the wedding is £120. Turns out none of our other friends are staying, they opted for a taxi home.
Also groomsmen & best man staying night before the wedding & having a few drinks etc (£80)

For our other friends wedding (first in our group) we gave £100 as a couple, we heard the other couples gave £50.

We had a wedding in spain & the couple (spanish) paid for a hotel for us so we gave 300EUR for that wedding.

Money wise, wouldn't say were 'well off', 30 year old couple not struggling so can afford to give any amount really

Obviously it depends on your budget, but I wouldn't say you ought to give more because you are a "groomsman"

I would suggest between £50 and £100 is more 'normal' but it will vary hugely, depending on people's budgets.

I'd say £100 if you can afford it and are close friends.

It dosnt matter if your a groomsman or not, you give what you want and can afford never mind what anyone else says or thinks.

Your parent or your partner ? says £200 is too much.

I would give £100, as that is what you both gave the other couple in your friendship group.

or you give £50 if that is what you both believe is the amount the others in your friendship are giving.

I'm clearly out if touch with things these days. So what is a groomsman?
Is the bride arriving in a carriage and you look after the horses?
Or do you follow the groom with flowers?
Or do you ensure that the groom is tied naked, to a lamp-post, with an 'L plate' taped over his bits and pieces?
Or is it something else?
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Iv been Maid of honour twice and both times, the dresses,hair, makeup, nails, tan ,shoes hotel stay have all been covered by the bride & groom so likely to be in the range of 300/400 minimum as a couple gifted to them as they are obviously close to me. I think £200 is too little but if thats all your budget allows im sure the couple will be more than happy to have you over the money. Yes i have been away on the hen party's too also covering the cost of there weekend away granted split between the other bridesmaids etc . We are also getting married soon and have also covered suits, alterations, bridesmaids dress, shoes, hair, makeup, tan, nails overnight stays in the hotel......

I think £200 is a very respectable amount. And if you are happy with that then that is what matters.

I think the op means best man.

Does Mumsnet have some sort of glitch in the system ?

as this thread is from April, the wedding was the following week so I am pretty sure the present has been given...

I think it's what's usually called an usher but maybe not with those specific duties any more. It's a "thing" in the US where they have as many groomsmen as bridesmaids and they kind of pair up going down the aisle I think? (All of this "knowledge" from social media of other people's weddings so take with a pinch of salt).

Not the best man anyway, because he's mentioned separately.

Op, £100 would seem fine to me but I'm probably wildly out of touch.

DAMN YOU, ZOMBIE THREADS!