Wedding, speech, dues and don’ts what have you seen that’s really worked well

[Maryberryseyelases]

Mother of the groom lovely couple, et cetera no problem at all with public speaking not worried about that.

What have you seen that you thought that was really cute and I love that and it went down really well and what has been terrible

Do you mean you're making a speech, or are looking for tips for the bride and groom, who are making speeches?

recent wedding i was at had the speeches before the meal, to me it was a great use of the time sitting waiting on food

Say lovely things about your dc and the couple and mean it.

No jokes. I'd actually feel angry if someone made that joke about the floor tiles. I want a short, intelligent, meaningful, well-mannered speech thanks.

Keep it short that's the main thing.

Worst one I ever heard was the father of the bride who said ‘having been through all the men in Manchester, our Laura had to start on the men in Liverpool, where she met Simon’.

He then went on to say ‘we always say Laura is just like a lava lamp. Hot but thick’.

Bloody hell @O6bftdff!

Don't be sniffy about the university the bride/groom went to and compare it unfavourably with the one you went to yourself. No, M, I'm not over that.

I'm agreeing that speeches should be short and sweet, unless the speakers are actually funny and confident. And agree to have their speeches checked beforehand for appropriateness.
I went to a wedding where a family member was best man, and he gave a really horrible speech, essentially calling the bride a harlot but in jokey language ( hey, it's only banter). She laughed ( what else could she do) but I wouldn't have been surprised if her Dad had punched his lights out. There were loads of kids there, some of them teenagers and old enough to understand, I couldn't believe how someone could be so nasty to the bride on her wedding day. I don't think he even had anything against her, he just thought he was funny! So yeah, insist on seeing the speeches in advance!
If you can get some live music , go for that, and again, check the playlist for broad appeal and appropriateness.

short
something affectionate about your son
something welcoming and nice about the bride
Maybe something nice and simple about how they met/an anecdote that people might not know.

nothing controversial, everything paints couple in best possible light.

Round of with we couldn't be happier, so delighted etc etc and toast them

The best wedding I've ever been to, afternoon tea was served during the speeches.

Then dancing

Then a big buffet

I realise this thread is 7 months old, so presume the wedding has been and gone now @Maryberryseyelases ?

Did your speech go well ?

I went to a wedding last year, the speeches were fab but unfortunately all done before we had the meal and everyone was starving so I’d think about the timings of the day.

oh was fab thanks !

I framed it around a Taylor Swift song and got loads of comply

I've seen some awkward ones - a bride who was so excited about hearing her father's speech and then it barely mentioned her. And a best man speech that mentioned the bedroom - don't go there!

Some good do's and dont's for best man speeches that I found useful here:
thespeechsmith.com/what-to-say-and-what-to-never-say-in-a-best-man-speech/

I’ve heard some great speeches! Either you have talent or you don’t. Everyone needs to read the room and what the occasion demands.

Larger weddings are not all trashy! Some couples have lots of friends and relatives. Class is still class even if it’s at a larger wedding!