I’m not invited

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Hi everyone. I really hope you can help with this. Me and my fiancée met 5 years ago at work, we have been engaged for 3 years now. Me and my fiancée met at work. We now have 2 kids and are incredibly happy and in love. We also worked with my fiancées best friend. Me and his best friend have always got on well. , however we had a bit of a problem where we basically announced my pregnancy with our first child and he made a few comments about us asking if it was the right step for him etc I caught wind of this and was very upset he was questioning our relationship but we ended up ending the conversation on a civil “as long as you’re happy note.” My fiancées best friend is now getting married and has not invited me to the ceremony, only the after party. This really hurt me. Am I right in thinking this is very rude and hurtful??

What does your fiancé think?
Why was his friend mouthing off about your relationship anyway, and how is it you know he did this? If your fiancé told you yet didnt put his friend in his place then, your fiancé is also the problem.

Is he going to the wedding ceremony without you? Even tho you've been snubbed? Unfortunately some people are just weak-willed, and easily led by their friends. In your shoes I'd not even be bothered to go to the after-party I'd do something nice for myself instead.

You dont have to go everywhere you're invited. Nor do you have to bother with people who dont like you.

It depends how the conversation between dp and friend went. If it was a checking in that you are okay with these life changing things that's fair enough and probably didn't need repeating to you. If he was slating you as a long term prospect that's different and should have been addressed/challenged by your dp.

It's hard to know with wedding, it does seem harsh to not include you given they know you. But it may be no friends plus ones are invited. Or possibly he does have an issue with you.

If you have no beef with dp friend I'd give home benefit of doubt. And it's up to you whether you are happy to attend or not.

YABU

His wedding, his choice of guests. Either there is no room for you or he doesn't want you there. Either way you are not the priority as a bf's gf, and how could you possibly expect to be?

Interesting that you have not mentioned the bride. Have you met? Are you close? Perhaps they want people there they both feel close to?

What about his other friends' partners? Are you the only one not invited or is this typical?

The Fact that you are his best friends fiancée does sound a bit off that you are not invited.
I would be hurt as well.
Find out the reason.
Has for your 1st pregnancy announcement.
He could be jealous.
Whatever, go to the party and hold your head up high.

That’s true. I personally feel he’s just looking out for his best friend but at the same time I haven’t done anything bad. I haven’t cheated, lied, nothing. I’ve been so civil and nice so I just feel he’s being a but hurtful because he knows he can?

That’s true, I understand, I genuinely just want to understand if I’m being a bit much in being hurt. The only thing I can do is think if I as in the man getting married position would I do the same, and the answer is no

Yeah maybe you are right, hence why I’m asking you guys haha. And no, although I have met the bring about 3 times (and have been very pleasant with her) no, she is not my friend .

*bride