Hi , we are a couple in the early 40s together 5 years a child together kids from previous relationships, all ok in the family front etc . I love him to bits and 100. % want to get married . The issue is we are polar opposites when it comes to socialising, he loves attention and lots of people ( grew up is a massive family and loves chaos ) , really feels our loved ones siblings and parents on both sides want to be a part of our day , while I just wanted to have a holiday of a lifetime take all the kids and get married away from the rest of the family .
After pressure mostly from him and my family ( parents and siblings ) we decided to get married in our home country and while the idea of the wedding is a nice one , the venue is amazing the food is great etc , I’m so out of my comfort zone I feel my anxiety is through the roof .
we are a busy family both have full time jobs , mine with a lot of added responsibilities , 3 living at home kids and 2 that visit often , the guest list went from 60 to over 100 , I’m on a diet as I feel so much pressure to look good , although it’s not my ideal wedding I’m a perfectionist and have ADHD so simply switching off is impossible and if I’m organising something it needs to be good .
On my bad days I keep thinking all will go wrong and kids will all misbehave or get sick and I will be super disappointed that we spend so much time and money and sacrifices this what’s holiday .
Part of me wishes I never agreed to a big wedding and , the other part I loves to see how excited all our families are and love to see him and the kids super happy and excited and looking forward .
pleasee don’t reply things as just cancel the wedding as there is to much time and money invested and I very one is so excited I couldn’t do it .
I guess what I want you know is if everyone else feels so overwhelmed and anxious . Or am o such a weirdo for not loving to plan my wedding .