Husband not invited to wedding

[WeddingAIBU]

Got an invitation to my cousin’s wedding and it appears my husband (of 10 years) isn’t invited. My sibling’s spouse has been invited. AIBU to think this is really quite rude and decline the invitation? I’m not that close to my cousin, to be fair, but I don’t think sibling is either.

Sounds like they might tbh

You need to find out if the envelope for your sibling had both their names on.

I assume the card itself is one that names aren’t actually written on? Just the wedding info?

Really bad form from them. I wouldn't go, but I wouldn't make waves about it if they might hit your mum.

I would assume it meant both but find out what siblings invite says. Or just message cousin and just casually ask is it just you or both invited so you know what to do about babysitting etc

OP

Having read your updated posts, two things come to mind

!: All evidence points towards them not wanting him anywhere near their wedding

2: There must be a reason for this. Hopefully its a misunderstanding but I get this gut feeling they dislike your hubby for something he may have done/said etc

Therefore, why does your hubby think they've not invited him?

Sorry OP, I have a very active mind.

I'd just drop your cousin a message or ring them up and ask.
"Just wanted to be sure about the invitation - are Mary and I invited with our husbands, or just cousins without spouses, asI know anything goes at weddings these days, but we've both interpreted the invitations differently?"

That way you get the answer for both of you and it will be clear if you really have been treated differently (which leaves and opening to ask why), or, if you are both invited as couples and they've been careless addressing them, or, if your sister has just 'assumed' and got it wrong.

I would contact to clarify, but if they say only you I would RSVP saying no thanks, I can´t make it. So I think it may be an oversight.
I just think that is so disrespectful. Come and celebrate my marriage but beware I don´t give a fig about yours.

So, which was it @WeddingAIBU ?

Messaged cousin to ask about the invite and she said it’s only for me (no explanation offered) - so I’m not going! Will do something nice with DH and kids instead.

That’s pretty rude of them! Even if they don’t like your DH for some reason, you don’t leave out half of a couple. Invite both or neither.

Do they know BIL outside of him married to your sister? Did they go to school together/play sport/work together??

It’s either a mistake or they don’t like him. If it’s the latter, it’s definitely rude.

Sometimes people have weird rules for weddings like "anyone we've seen in the past year". Did you see your cousin without DH one time?

I wouldn’t go. I can understand, if your sibling’s partner wasn’t invited too. But a DH of 10 years, it’s not like it’s some fling you’re taking.

I definitely wouldn't be going. It would be different if they didn't invite your siblings partners but as it stands this is just rude!