Will I regret family only destination wedding?

[Travellover94]

I am dead set on a destination wedding and want to keep things low cost.
We have also had problems with telling potential guests that it would be guest invite only (no partners) so we decided on a close family only wedding of 10 people.

However my DP would like for his BF and their wife and child to join us as his BM, as my sister is my MOH and he would not have a BM if his BF doesnt come- Im perfectly fine with this... However.....
I am now worried I will regret not having any of my own friends join us on our wedding day. But the other issue would be picking between friends. I have 8 friends that I am all equally close to so would not want to upset any by picking 2.

Do I take the risk of upsetting friends and only pick 2? Or stick to the original plan and have family only plus my DP's BF, his partner and child.

FYI- We will be having a party when we get home to celebrate with all friends and extended family so we will be celebrating with everyone anyway.

Thank you

As long as everyone’s partner / children is invited, then it sounds amazing. Your friends will probably relieved not to have to pay travel costs. Just be careful how you talk anout it to them eg not “Sorry we can’t invite you to the wedding cos of costs” but instead “we’re doing the ceremony bit overseas with just family and then the wedding party is back in the UK on x date and we really hope you can make it”

If you spend a load of money on a big UK wedding while you really want a family destination wedding, you’ll probably regret it. I do! But the in laws weren’t willing to get on a plane, sigh…

We did the cheap abroad wedding and then party at home - but the abroad wedding was literally just dh and I. And the party at home was the celebration of us getting married. I don’t regret a single bit of it.

the whole reason we did it was to not have to pick and choose friends for best man and MOH and invite lists and seating plans, we just wanted to be married - and then celebrate that with our friends.

it looks like you’re trying to make the best of both worlds and it isn’t working for you as it’s getting bigger and bigger

I hope you are paying for the guests' flights and hotels. Otherwise it's bloody selfish to expect them to pay for your wedding.

What a load of rubbish. Nowhere does OP indicate she isn’t committed to the marriage itself. You don’t have to get married wearing a paper bag at the local registry office to prove that you really love your husband.

Why don't you get married have a party then go to this abroad on honeymoon. Less expensive for guests and same amount of travel and expense for you