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Leesa394 · 31/12/2023 18:32

Hello everyone, I would be grateful for your help.

I invited a colleague to my wedding who I had found to be talking behind my back. I was oblivious to this for some time. She would talk ill about other colleagues to me and tell me that they're talking ill of me. I would ignore this. However, when we would all be present together, she would talk to them and completely ignore me. Her tone would also change towards me.

After hearing a lot of things that she has said about me, I decided to go and talk to her. I left things positively and told her its all fine and I just thought I should clear things up and no hard feelings. Of course she denied and started changing the topic.

Since then, she has not spoken to me and avoid eye contact.
I do not plan on talking to her as I use to as I have been very hurt by the comments made.
I now do not know what to do about the invitation. My wedding is in July.

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autienotnaughty · 31/12/2023 19:30

Tricky. I'd probably leave the wedding invitation open to her. Has she RSVP?

I fell out with a friend who was invited to my wedding. She still came, we were polite on the day then I never spoke to her again.

But you do have to see her so I'd leave it but if she does decline accept gracefully

HateMyRubbishBoss · 31/12/2023 19:34

I’d wait a bit, things might change, she might come to her senses and apologise

most weddings I know have some sort of drama so you’re not the first

your situation is better than mine (years ago): think maid of honour wearing white!

good luck x

Leesa394 · 31/12/2023 22:52

We had only sent out Save the dates and are planning to send the official invitations out soon.

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Leesa394 · 31/12/2023 22:54

Oh goodness, I'm so sorry you had to go through that@HateMyRubbishBoss
:(

My only concern is that I am planning on reducing all communication with her after this as I'm tired of the same thing.

Also, I'm certain even if she does end up coming after me not talking to her, she will talk negatively about it at work.

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itsgoingtobeabumpyride · 31/12/2023 23:35

If you've only sent out save the date you can just not send a formal invitation.
If she asks why be honest.
In the meantime distance yourself from her, polite but cool so your not on friendly terms when the wedding comes

Leesa394 · 22/01/2024 16:08

She told my friend that she requested annual leave for my wedding and it has been approved.
Unsure what to do and how to approach this?
Any advice would be appreciated

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