Not sticking to colour scheme for tables....

[JustAnotherManicMomday]

Hi All, Advice needed and dp is leaving the main part of planning to me as his swamped at work at the minute. Whilst I'm off this week I'm trying to get some bits sorted for our wedding in August. I have already purchased the bridesmaid and flower girl dresses. Given we have 4 different dresses due to ages of flower girls and bridesmaids I am amazed the shades of pink are so close I could hardly believe my luck. I have ordered artificial flowers for the ceremony but am having a few real for the ceremony.

The flowers will be pink and white roses, just one of each in a bud vase on a mirror plate, surrounded by candles an a few scatter crystals. One table will have a white lantern surrounded by rose heads as a tribute to a recently passed away relative we were both very close to. Dp mentioned earlier about green as a colour scheme as we saw this used in our venue this summer and he really liked it. Naturally he forgot I have already got the dresses and flowers sorted.

Do you think a sage kind of green for table runners and chair sashes would work with pink and white flowers? I would like to incorporate the green he mentioned without having to start over. Thought this would be the best way and the bridesmaids would not blend in to their chairs. I could use both colours in the invites and dp could have green ties for the groomsmen.

Sage green works well with pink.

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Sage green would go perfectly with your existing colours

First of all, congratulations on your engagement! And yes, sage green would look fabulous with pink. So pretty and reflects nature with the pink flowers/green foliage combination. Maybe you could add some actual foliage to tie it all in.

Oh that looks gorgeous! 😍

That's a perfect colour scheme, and I love your tribute to your lost loved one.

@WhatWouldTheDoctorDo That was my thinking. I would like to show that I have taken his ideas on board even if he doesn't get directly involved in most of the planning. Plus I didn't want it to look overly pink as I'm not normally a very girly girl. However our nieces really wanted pink for flower girl dresses and they were so cute I couldn't say no. This would mean I can tone down the pink a little.

My next real issue is settling the wedding cake debate. I'm torn on having one because it's a nice tradition but dp thinks after a sit down meal, pizza truck in evening and icecream van it would be a waste of money. I see his point but as they are not cheap and if its not eaten for a small budget wedding its a lot to waste.

That is absolutely stunning!

@musiquo Thank you. Dps aunt was going on at as about getting married for years. When she was poorly and we told her she was so thrilled. Her photo is going in a locket on my flowers as she would have been front and Centre if she was still with us.

Definitely need a wedding cake. I would go for something like this- you an easily buy two hand go to Hobbycraft for the materials to stack them https://www.marksandspencer.com/personalised-piped-rose-sponge-cake-serves-24-/p/ckp60164884?prevPage=srp#intid=plpnav_pid_pg1pip17g2r6c2

I'm inclined to agree with your dp.
I often think this at weddings, that a traditional wedding cake is now superfluous.
As you say, not cheap either.
If I were getting married this year, I wouldn't have one.

How about a cheese wedding cake? I've seen them on the socials. My first thought was a fake cake like the ones used in school assemblies 😀
Love green and pink together btw

@UsingChangeofName I did think about the idea of cupcakes but though no as not the same as cutting the cake. Then I thought of this idea... with the message on the male saying Just and the female saying married.

Go with the alter at e cakes @JustAnotherManicMomday ;)

Our friends didn’t want a proper cake and went with a few dressed up caterpillar cakes to represent the top table - it was fabulous. Always a few naysayers about it not being traditional etc - but unless they are paying I’d ignore them. The only people that matter are you and DP.

Yes, the green is great with pink and consider making the cake part of the dessert - one that is nice with berries and cream or has a layer of meringue etc..

I have heard of one wedding cake being stacked wheels of cheese with grapes for decoration.

I really love the Colin cakes!

I’m biased but we had pale ‘antique’ pink, white and a sage green (albeit slightly more muted than your example photo, more like a light olive maybe??) for our colour scheme when we got married in ‘19 and it was stunning. So yea, do it!
As for a cake, up to you really. I don’t think they’re such a thing as they once were and it’s often the case people end up with loads left over. We had a three tier, three flavoured cake and the caterers served it in the evening which worked quite well as then we didn’t need a sweet option with the evening food.

We did a giant Colin and Connie at our wedding and it was fab!

We put our names on one and the date on the other.

The old tradition was to keep the top layer of cake for the christening of the first child, and send pieces of cake in little boxes to those who couldn’t come. It was always fruit cake which is nearly indestructible!

You could have dummy layers (polystyrene forms iced) if you want more oomph and less cake. After the first cut, it’s whisked off to the kitchens anyway.

There’s a lot of decisions to coordinate when planning a wedding and often it can be the first large scale event you’ve planned. It’s nice that you’re trying to incorporate things that are important to your fiancé op but he should equally be either pulling his weight or not thoughtlessly interfering and adding to your mental load.

Are the pizza truck and ice cream van his choice or yours?

I think the caterpillars are tacky but like the rose cake. Or just buy a small plain iced cake and decorate it plus some cutting cakes and leave it ou t cut up it will get eaten. Agree that a big expensive cake is a waste of money.

Colour scheme sounds nice

Our cake was quite simple - a friend made a large cake and just iced simply. The florist then arranged a few flowers on the top to make it more weddingy. Was fruit cake, but doesnt have to be. M & S did do a value wedding cake - big rectangular one - not sure if they still do. Also love the caterpillars idea. Or maybe a cheese cake. Turns into an extra course.
Or none - it's not law to have one and an ice cream van sounds fun!

The flowers will be pink and white roses, just one of each in a bud vase on a mirror plate, surrounded by candles an a few scatter crystals.

Pink and green go fine together but a mirror plate with crystals will look really tacky. I'd put the roses/candles amongst some moss or other greenery.

Colin the caterpillar is a brilliant idea!!