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Wedding weightloss regret?

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Notblueeyedgirl · 29/10/2023 17:37

Hi all,

Not sure if this belongs here or not, but I’m hoping someone somewhere can relate! I’ve always been a ‘big girl’, but have always carried my weight quite well. I’ve always been active and have tried various diets over the years where I lose a stone or 2, only for it to all go back on later on. This never bothered me.

My partner and I got engaged at the beginning of lockdown. I was so happy and never gave my weight a second thought, even when picking out dresses. Throughout lockdown, and due to some other issues, I gained about 3st and lost most of my confidence. Wedding dress shopping was a bit rubbish but I still managed to find my dream dress. It’s so beautiful and fitted really well but nevertheless I decided I would try to ‘slim down’ to feel my best.

We’ve had a rough year and so I only managed half a stone. Our big day came and it was an absolute dream from start to finish; an absolute fairytale day and we’ve been on cloud 9 ever since until last week when our pictures arrived.

I should be focusing on my new husband and family and how happy we all are, but all I can notice is my double chin, my bloated tummy and my massive arms! It’s really put a dampener on things and it’s all I can think about when looking through pics. I know it’s my own fault, my husband says I’m perfect the way I am, but I’m having major regrets about not putting in more effort despite the circumstances.

I just want to know has this happened to anyone else and if/how you ever got rid of this feeling? Tia x

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SameToo · 29/10/2023 17:48

I felt the same about mine. I thought I wasn’t bothered then saw the photos and thought ‘cripes!’. Now I’m at the stage where I just remember how much I enjoyed the day and try not to focus on how I looked. I also only have one small wedding picture printed so it’s not really something I have to confront daily.

Feliciacat · 29/10/2023 17:55

I feel similar about my wedding photos. I could have lost weight before my wedding but decided I wanted to just enjoy my life and not bother. I do think I don’t look my best in my photos…but me and DH look so genuinely joyful that they’re still great photos. Do you and DH look happy in the photos? I do think that’s what ultimately matters. A marriage is made of two personalities, not two weights!

I am now losing weight in a healthy way by loving myself. I think no matter how ‘big’ you are, you must be kind to yourself and realise that maybe you were overweight for a reason (mine was trauma) and that you have always had so many good qualities no matter what your weight is. Your DH loves you for you and that’s the victory in the photos; weight doesn’t matter in love.

whosaidtha · 29/10/2023 17:59

I have major regret. The year after my wedding I lost 4stone and looked and felt so much better. I really wish that I'd been motivated and done it before my wedding. But there's nothing I can do now.

GallbladderWoes · 29/10/2023 18:18

I tried so hard to lose weight for my wedding, spent £1500 on a personal trainer...
Ultimately I have PCOS, IBS and Endometriosis so I had the biggest tummy EVER.
There are about 5 wedding photos I like.
Much regret but also I worked so hard for NO RESULTS!

ToastforTea · 29/10/2023 19:00

You can’t go back and your issue is not the day but the pics

Get on an app like fiver and ask someone to photoshop your pics to the way you like them - job done and will only cost you a few pounds

ToastforTea · 29/10/2023 19:05

PS - I have been up and down the scales many times in my life and have had some pics edited to my liking myself.

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 29/10/2023 19:18

I feel a bit the same. I was 13st 8lbs or thereabouts when I got married in sept 2021 and I thought I looked ok but wasn't overly happy with my chin. Weight crept up to 13st 11.5lbs. With that and another photo of me on a work rounders day I started walking then running, went to slimming world and am now 11st 4.5lbs. I kind of wish I'd done that before I got married though!

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