Marrying abroad

[addison4]

My partner is dead set on getting married abroad. I was up for this initially but thinking about it more I am not keen on the idea. Reasons-

1. I would be pissed off having to spend money on flights/hotels and take time off work to attend a wedding abroad

1. Because of reason 1, less people would be able to attend than I would like.

1. Logistics- I am a bit of a control freak and am panicked about having to chance it with vendors etc, I want to me very involved in planning the details but equally I would end up having to go to the destinations at least once before the wedding which is more time off work and expense

1. One of the main reasons for marrying abroad is the weather- I hate the heat and the sun, and so does my partner to a degree

Those who have married abroad please share your experiences 🙏🏻🙏🏻 like I say my partner really has his heart set on this but it's filling me with anxiety!!

We did it but we went alone. Then had a big party when we got back. I certainly wouldn’t expect people to pay to attend a destination wedding. I also wouldn’t be going over before the wedding. Unless you have all the time and money in the world to throw at a wedding.

Unless you're from that country I don't think it's a good idea to marry abroad except to elope, that is nobody else attending. Just not fair.

My friend is getting married abroad and she has hired a wedding planner. She has a limited guest list (her choice) but she does have family/friends flying in from afar. They had actually gone to the country during their last summer vacay and saw the venue for themselves, which is definitely important. Rest all is being arranged by the planner, with the couple's oversight.

As above, we went on our own, then had a party when we got back. Went to sandals who organised the whole thing for us over email. When we arrived three days before the wedding we met with the wedding planner and everything was arranged in about an hour. Had the wedding videoed and played it on a loop in the background at the party.

Honestly you both have to be on the same page for this.
We got married abroad after cancelling a big uk wedding but this was because we realised the wedding was becoming about other people and not us.
We decided to get married abroad and didn’t invite anybody but our family and friends had other ideas and 30 made the trip but we would have been happy just the two of us.
We were very laid back and met with our wedding planner once we’d arrived. We didn’t care about the flowers, cake or music etc I wouldn’t have wanted to visit before we’d travelled for the wedding.
We’ve been married 15 years and I look back and don’t regret a thing but abroad weddings are not for everyone and if you’re having doubts please talk to your partner.

My daughter just did it with many of the same concerns as you.

She gave people 20 months advance notice so people could have time to decide/save/plan. About 50 people travelled from the United States, everyone else was closer to the location.

She was able to manage most of the vendors from afar, but did make one trip just to finalize a lot of stuff.

Her wedding was EPIC! It’s been more than 2 months and I’m still getting texts about how much people enjoyed it.

DH’s niece got married in the Canary Islands a few years ago. It was in a resort, so people all stayed there. They catered to wedding ceremonies, so did all of the organizing etc for her. It was a great time and lots of people were happy to make a holiday out of it and attend.

We did it, but it was just the two of us. Think we pitched up at the office to get the licence organised and then got married the next day.

Had a bit of a party when we got home (didn’t mention weddings to the venue).

My db and sil got married abroad 5 years ago, it was lovely but SOOOO hot it was almost unbearable (Greek island btw), it was organised via the travel agent and there were a few cock-ups when we were there, which thru luck and flaw we overcame, but I'd say if you want to be particular - stick to your home country!Good luck!