Would you get married two months after giving birth?

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Just found out I'm due two months before we get married!

Moving the wedding isn't really an option for us, I'm not too worried this will be my second and I recovered quickly after my first!

I suppose I'm asking if anyone else has done this and if so any tips to make the day a little smoother. We were thinking of maybe getting a nanny for the weekend. Not to completely take care of baby but just for some support?

Look forward to hearing from everyone!

Depends on what sort of wedding you're having really. Mine was a registry office and a meal so I would have managed easily. My sisters was an all day huge event, it's a wonder any of us made it through it was so knackering!

Absolutely not. I was in the grip of PND 2 months after dc 1, and more tired than I'd ever been in my life after dc2, so I wouldn't have enjoyed either day.

I think it depends on the wedding you're planning and if your breastfeeding etc.
I recovered well physically after both births, but I know I was still tired and feeding a lot day and night so wasn't feeling brilliant and probably looked a bit of a zombie most of the time - I'm sure good wedding makeup could've fixed that for me though 😂 I was actually still bleeding after DS2 a little bit at 8 weeks though, so don't think I'd have been confident wearing a white dress!
I think it's doable, but definitely get some help from family/friends/nanny on the day to help you relax a bit 😊

No I wouldn't. I'd rather be 40 weeks waddling down the aisle than after birth with a 2 month old who is very likely to not actually even be 2 months old if he's late.

I wouldn't have enjoyed it at all and it would feel like a huge waste of money plus a fuck ton of unnecessary stress a matter of weeks after giving birth.

I got married 2 and half months after giving birth.
It was a great day. I breast fed and that wasn't a problem.
I worked hard to look good in the gym leading up to it and liked all the pampering on the lead up to it.

No way.

But not sure why you are asking if you say moving the wedding isn't an option, and if you are already pregnant.

I got married 16 weeks post birth.

My god OP, sorry but I actually couldn't think of anything worse. I postponed my own wedding as I'd have been in a very similar situation to you. Two months in, I was living in trackies, had very leaky boobs and was cluster feeding.

However! If it's not possible to postpone then there's really not a huge amount you can do, so just set very low expectations of yourself for the day. Make it as chilled as you can.

Yes it was fine. Made sure dress had easy breastfeeding access (for in private, not during the ceremony..)

I didn't sleep much night before, not due to baby just stress, that's probably in the range of normal with or without a baby.

As pps have said, it depends on your wedding. I got married at 39 weeks pregnant, but it was just two witnesses and a fancy meal, so could have just cancelled if the baby came early or I was feeling dreadful for some reason.

I guess I was just looking for some positive stories of yes it'll all be fine!

It'll be my second child and my recovery was quick with my first. So I'm hoping for the same again.

I'm going to remain positive that all will be fine, we have a good group of friends and family and a nanny to help from the Friday - Sunday.

I guess I was just looking for some positive stories of yes it'll all be fine!
Well mine was a positive story and it eas fine.
That said, everyone organised the wedding for me. I just chose my outfit , got my make up and hair done! 🤣🤣
It was pretty informal but we had a fantastic day and baby was ni issue.

I got married when my first was 20 weeks old. It was fine! I organised the wedding while I was on maternity leave so I had time to sort things out. We did have a nanny for the day who brought baby to the ceremony, took him off for naps etc and put him down in the evening till my parents came home (he stayed with them overnight that night). We had baby with us too but it just meant we had help on hand without taking our family away from the celebrations. We had quite a DIY village hall wedding so quite a lot to do the day before & after but we had loads of help from family & friends and it turned it into a whole weekend event in a way.

The day itself was made easier by the fact that I wasn't breastfeeding - not my original plan but just how it turned out. Would have needed more careful outfit choice of I'd been breastfeeding and obviously couldn't have given baby to anyone else to feed. I bought my dress when I was starting to show and then had it fitted a few weeks before the wedding to allow for baby bump changes.

2 months old (less if baby is late, more if she/he comes early) might be harder as you'll be more sleep deprived but I don't see why you can't still have a lovely day. You already have one child so you know what it's like having a small baby, and presumably you're planning a family friendly day to include your younger child. Congratulations!

My friend got married with a fairly young baby. You could clearly see her breast pads through her wedding dress, so that’s something you might want to consider when choosing your outfit.

I guess it depends on your baby and your birth (and recovery). Physically I was fine but my DD was screaming non-stop at that age (undiagnosed cow's milk allergy & silent reflux); we were walking zombies from the zero sleep and it would not have been enjoyable.
With an "easy" baby it might be fine.