Newlywed and blown away by people’s joy

[Somethingtrue]

My parents aren’t married and not been to any weddings in the family since very young so not much experience of weddings / marriage stuff.

Just married and so blown away by people’s joy and kindness. Not realised until now just how much people LOVE news of a wedding / marriage!

Of course friends and family had a lovely day and were very generous, but what gets me is people where my Mum lives who saw me around growing up have sent me cards - so sweet!! I went to see my Gran yesterday and the carers who Gran must have mentioned it to started congratulating me and they genuinely looked so happy.

Husband just came home with a card and bottle of champagne from his colleagues at a fairly new job who haven’t even met me!

So so sweet. I have ‘achieved’ things in my life eg degree, good job, house but haven’t experienced anything like this. My husband is a lovely man but I haven’t ‘done’ anything apart from choose well . 🤣 People have been so lovely.

Did you experience this and we’re you quite taken aback by it?

I have ‘achieved’ things in my life eg degree, good job, house but haven’t experienced anything like this.

Thats kind of sad.

i like to hear of a wedding, they seem rare now for some reason.

Congratulations :)

I get you. When I was single I did my own thing and wasn’t focused on ‘getting a man.’ Had a friend who knew this constantly asked did I have a secret boyfriend or used to refer to ‘when you get married’ 🤔. Others were also obsessed with was I dating. now I’m socially acceptable 😉

Thank you so much!

Congratulations!
I was just the same, 37 years ago 😂
Taken aback by the joy we shared with friends and family.
Wishing you every future happiness.

Hi @Somethingtrue
Congratulations on your wedding hun!
I was getting messages from people i hadn't seen in years, they'd heard i got married and wanted to say congratulations! So lovely! Enjoy every minute xx ❤

I remember this feeling!! Congratulations.

Thank you ladies I feel full of warmth tbh

Congratulations! I am just about to have our first baby and feel exactly the same - almost overwhelmed by the joy everyone else is taking in from our good news. It's so lovely 😊.

I felt like this when I had first baby! People I barely knew, friends of parents, colleagues I’d barely spoke to, elderly neighbours who I’d literally never had a conversation with seemed absolutely thrilled! There were so many presents and cards! It was lovely 😊
Nothing like when I got a degree or first job etc. (But tbh I wasn’t half as thrilled with those things either…)

Congratulations! 💜
I was the same, over 20 years ago, was really taken aback by people’s joy! In fact, although I am divorced now, I’m still really pleased that I went through that experience.

Maybe it was the people I know - am from a culture where being married = being settled & creating a family, but nothing had prepared me, apart from maybe degree & PhD day joy.

Enjoy every minute! How lovely to receive 🍾 and people’s good wishes. Wishing you a happy future. Your post oozes positivity and glow!

Same here, I was also in a new-ish job and was overwhelmed by the gifts my colleagues clubbed together to give us - most of them I'd never met in person only online! It's so nice, enjoy it!

Getting married is such a fundamentally optimistic thing to do. You've stood in front of people and promised to be faithful to each other for the rest of your lives when you, and the people watching, know it doesn't always work like that. People are on your side and full of hope and optimism for you, whatever their experience.

I've been happily married for more than twenty years and still get a bit of a heart-swell seeing people start their journey, and hope that they experience the sort of happiness I've had.

Agreed. After my mother kept gushing about my cousin's engagement I eventually told her 'she's a doctor, finding a man really isn't the biggest accomplishment' and she quickly retorted 'HE'S GOOD LOOKING!'

Ok then

It’s lovely isn’t it! DH and I were blown away by the joy and kindness when we got married. An old school friend DH hadn’t seen in years and I had never met sent us a very expensive engagement present and then couldn’t even come to the wedding!

We got a ridiculous amount of engagement cards, tons of people offered to help with various parts of the wedding and really went out if their way to do so. There was even a little crowd of people outside the church cheering when I went in. They were various (not close) friends of my parents etc who wouldn’t have expected to be invited to the wedding but they had all known my family a long time and just wanted to wish me well. It still makes me a bit teary thinking about it!

Came here to see if anyone would find a way to put a negative spin on this, and sure enough the first post didn't disappoint 😄

Congratulations OP! Wishing you every happiness.

How lovely!

Congratulations to you both!
I love to hear when people get married. It's a joyous and momentous occasion to declare your love for each other. Enjoy the feeling!

Thank you so much. I am very positive indeed as I never wanted to marry or settle down before I met my husband!

Bless you what a lovely lovely post. Brought a tear to my eye

Really really made me smile at the crowd outside the church - how sweet!! 🥺

Thank you for all these lovely post. Amongst the gifts we have got quite a lot of booze so we will be pickled on our honeymoon.

I think one of the sweetest gestures was from my 90+ year old gran. She is very very poorly and insisted my Uncle go and get us a nice bottle of rose and some wine glasses. I know I will always treasure those. So glad she is still around to hear of me getting married (too poorly to come sadly). She really loved my Grandad who is no longer with us.

Mh friends will be happy for anyone getting married but they tend to be more enthusiastic for achievements like passing exams. Usually when people get married now, they’ve been together a while and live together so it’s not much of a change other than the actual wedding day. I think many of my friends are not particularly traditional though. Older people i know still get very excited about weddings.

Just enjoy it, it’s nice that people are happy for you. Congratulations. 🥂

When you come down to it, we are pack animals. So we are invested in anything that happens, and when it is nice things, like marriages or babies, it gives us a chance to engage in social behaviour like the stuff you describe. It is a shame that we dont get more chance to be part of a community rather then the focus being on nuclear family.

Really love this ^^

Congratulations OP!

I love weddings and people hoping to start a happy life together!

That’s a nice way to look at it. ❤️Unfortunately I will never get to experience the baby joy as my own body hates me! 2022 was a horrible year due to multiple miscarriages. I felt like the unluckiest person ever.

Some have commented its sad I’ve achieved other things yet they’ve not been celebrated so much, however, it’s nice to have something ‘normal’ and universal experience after all that.